hey all, what would be some good ideas for vday for my wife and i, we are currently seperated but are trying to work things out or at least i am, she said nothing too big, but i want it to be a night to remember without trying to be too obvious to her, let me know what all you think

A good idea would be something small that does not cost alot of money but comes from you're heart.

Think of some of the best times you have had with her and recreate that feeling. Show her you care without having to spend alot of money. If it comes from the heart, it means so much more.

Well I don't know how much "too much" is, but I'm a woman, and one year my husband took me out to a very nice restaurant to eat, then for a carriage ride around downtown (Good even in winter, they have blankets!!), then we went home and he had rose petals on the bed, and fed me strawberries dipped in chocolate.....it was crazy romantic.

Maybe skip the "out to dinner" part, make her a romantic dinner at home.....you could start out with like cheese and fruit...feed it to her??

Arrrgh, what does she mean "not too much"?? Does she mean not too expensive or not too over the top? Get back to me and I'll give you more ideas <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I'll be spending Valentines day alone, sooooooo I'd be happy to help someone else out !!

-Caren

you know i didnt even think about it, when we first met a few years ago i had just got my video camera, i recorded the whole conversation while we were getting to know one another, a lotta laughs that night, truely a night i would call special, wow thanks a lot, hey what do you think, maybe i could get the tape, and drive her down there and park in the same spot and we could watch the video together, or would that be lame, hmmmmmmmm..., let me know

That sounds cool to me, I am alone this year and would love to have someone to do that for. Have some wine and cheese, some fruit, you could make that very special.

And listen to Caren, very wise she is...

she probably meant not to over the top, since we are kinda in the rebuilding stage, but hey, i did like your idea, maybe she just meant she wouldnt stay the night, but you never know, we may end up on a whole new level before the night is up, come to think of it. we speant the night together when i taped us, the only thing we ate was a bag of chips and a couple of sodas, but it didnt really matter at the time, hmmmmmm, maybe i am starting to see that all the big things i did like taking her out to expensive places to eat and all that was'nt really helping, it is the little things in life that make you the happiest, wow, this place will make you go in really deep thought, so tell me what you think

wine and fruit sounds good, but silly question we have never drank any wine, what is good, how do you serve it, we used to drink occasionally but mainly mixed drinks and for me bear, fruit and cheese, where and what kind, i could probably find some, but i want to make it right, so the night will be perfect

If you've never been a wine drinker, wine is probably a bad idea...LOL, although if she likes 'fruity' drinks, that means she'd like a sweet wine (usually), I don't like most wine, but I do like "Martini & Rossi - Asti" it's a sparkling wine, and it's really good...I'm more of a soda drinker, but I love that stuff...so that might be good, and it's not really expensive. As far as fruit and cheese, stick to fruit like grapes (Seedless), and maybe strawberries...stuff you can pick up with your fingers and not get too sticky (Don't forget napkins and possibly like handi-wipes just in case), cheeses...well that depends on what you like too, but they sell cheese already cubed in the cheese aisle at the store (it comes in bags, so buy some of the those ziploc containers to put the stuff in) I'd say mild cheese like mild cheddar, colby, colby-jack.....get a couple different ones. Buy a couple wine glasses. Yep....that idea is too cute, I think she'll love it!!!

-Caren

Hi Shane,

My football team lost last night, my basketball team lost tonight, and it looks like I've lost my wife forever... but I'll be damned if I don't find some humor in this life SOMEwhere...

TRUST me... I mean not an iota of disrespect by this... but do you realize you're asking for "how to romance your wife" advice in quite possibly the worst place on the planet?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

If it were me, I would serve a red wine, something like a Shiraz, Wolf Blass makes a nice one, it is not expensive and it is served warm, not chilled.

As for cheeze, just go to the deli in you're supermarket and ask them. I love swiss and havarti with some sausage and crackers. The deli can help you pick out some good stuff. Don't over think this or you may just let yourself down. Have fun with it and remember a corkscrew <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Alan, Alan, Alan:

You're getting too technical here...LMAO I'm sending him to the Kraft aisle and you're going for the deli and Shiraz...LOL!!!!

Oh well, good suggestions Shane, I don't know how fruity Shiraz is, I was mainly thinking because she chose fruity mixed drinks she'd like that....and I would go for the simple cheese, just because we're not sure what she likes.

Alan...never be so insolent to contradict me again! LMAO!!!!!!!!!!! JK

-Caren

thank you so much everybody, i will try this i am going through the videos, if you are interested most of our story is in the divorced or divorcing forum under not divorced yet and not wanting to be, let me know what to think and thanks again, you have helped so much, i now have a happier state of mind, you have cheered me up and gave me hope and pulled my head up high thanks

one more thing, what about a gift of some sort, flowers?

How about just a single red rose. That's not over stated, and it'll get the point across <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren

kinda off the subject, but for those who read my other post in divorced, check this out, what a night i just had, my wife and i ended up together for tonight and wow, we totally connected like we have never before, we kissed a few times, she told me she loved me cheerfully this time, we talked about old times and how we have grown apart, talked about the good, laughed, sung some songs to each other while driving, held hands, all that good stuff, she asked me if i was still in love with her as much as i always was, and she said to be honest so i was, i told her that i loved her more than ever and even now in the situation we are in i told her i still lover her more and more, and respect her more, but to be honest i'de have to admit we have lost some of our passion, she agreed, i know i know, i am not supposed to get into the serious talk, short talk happy talk, but i kinda danced around it untill she brought it up, sorry to be just rambling on but this is really good news to me, and now i am even looking more foward to the special vday i have planned, hope everybodys problems will work out, pray pray pray, truthfully i did all day yesterday and today, and while we were together that he would guide me and protect us from evil, and wow, look what happened, i am exstatic

Well Shane.
It looks to me that the love is still there between you two.

All marriages have to go through some 'deserts' to get to the oasis.

How about buying her a pair of diamond stud earrings for Valentine Day?

SHE WOULD LOVE THEM and you can buy them for less than $100....(Like at Kay's.)

Love, Julie <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Shane

Think of a time you spent with your W in unique intimacy.

A vacation, a place, a movie, a season....whetever.

And then think of something thay represents it well amodel of a Tram, a frame postcard of a vacation destination, a show programme...you know teh stuff.

And package it REAL nice and say " I love you as much today as I did then. I want to make many more special memories with you. Happy valentines day, my one valentine "

Not that I'm doing that or anything ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />