I'm posting under a different screen name because I am too ashamed of myself to post under my normal name. I am leaving MB because of this, I can't face any of my friends here anymore.

My WW has been gone for several months, I've just started Plan B, and things were fine. And then tonight everything that CAN go wrong did, and it is all my fault. I accept full responsibility, will confess here, but will have a very difficult time confessing to my WW and son.

Tonight, I had sex with my son's wife. We both went at it like animals. He's stationed in Iraq - I betrayed my wife and son. I am so ashamed.

I am sorry to all who have helped me get so far here. I let you all down. I am not sure what I am going to do. There isn't much hope for me now. Time has run out.

Goodbye, my friends. I'm sorry

Tireman - don't leave - While I'm a little more than shocked at your behavior - don't leave - there are things that can be done - you are in the right place here - haven't you already learned that we all are wired for affairs? DOn't leave - let us help you sort this out...

David

Yep, that's right, you f'ked up royally and now ant to withdraw from the best resource on earth to help put it right. Not sensible TM.

Avoiding what you did will not help you personally recover from it, nor help you recover the wider situation.

Take no decisions while you are so emotional. Breathe. Pray.

Its a mess alright, but theres no mess God can't clean up.

Exactly -- tireman - there isn't anywhere else I've ever found that is this helpful. I almost messed up a few nights ago - and many people helped me thru it. Just stay and work thru this. Take the night off, sleep, and post again tomorrow after you think things thru. We are all here for the same reasons - none of us are perfect...

David

Well, no sugar coating here, this is pretty bad, maybe as bad as it gets. But, it happened, you can't change the past, but you can affect the future.

Let me echo the others posts....do seek help, and stay here - even under your new name....all is not lost....no matter how bad you think you are right now, there is always someone who has done worse (murder, rape, etc) and been completely forgiven of their sin.

TM

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by TravellinMan:
<strong> Let me echo the others posts....do seek help, and stay here - even under your new name....all is not lost....no matter how bad you think you are right now, there is always someone who has done worse (murder, rape, etc) and been completely forgiven of their sin.

TM </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I really don't see how. I lost my faith tonight, found out my son's wife is a slut - slept with others too - even other womens - and I drank myself stupid. How can I face anyone here, how can I face my wife? How can I face my son??? And now this girl is sending me tms telling me how great I was. This is not natural. It's wrong. I don't see how anyone can get out of this mess. Thanks for youre messiges but I can't keep this up. I threw away my whole life tonihgt.

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Oh, this is going to be so hard for you. I know that. But it isn't hopeless - you didn't throw your life away.

But you are going to need help and support. Please don't give that up. Please don't give up.

I have no advice to give. Which is ok - I don't think advice is what you need right now. You just need to know that it will get better. There are some really rough times ahead of you now, but you can get through them, and people here will support and help you.

And I said I have no advice, but I changed my mind. Since it's 4:30 in the morning, obviously you can't go see someone now. But are you seeing a counselor? If you are, can you get in first thing tomorrow? Or as soon as possible - tell them it is an emergency; I think this qualifies. If you don't have one, find one. Please. You're going to need someone to talk to, and I think it would be good to have someone to talk to in person.

Please stay and get the help you need.

Tireman,

What you did in a moment of weakness should not be the end of it all. Instead you found out that your son has already been betrayed. Yes, what you did was wrong. What your WS did was and is wrong.

There is a difference, when one errs then repents, that one is already on the way to recovery. You have taken a few steps backwards but your heart condition is helping you to get your balance back. Your regret will make you feel bad because what was done was bad. You were in a moment of weakness.

Yes it should not have happened but it did. R u truely regretful for this act? Will you do it again? Will you manipulate and justify it?

Do not beat yourself more than is needed. Asking forgiveness is available though you may not feel worthy at this time. The avenue for forgiveness does exist. Use it.

In reality, you did betray your son but not the WS. Once the WS breaks the vows, the marriage arrangement is broken. Unless you took her back and since then she has not broken it again, then she is responsible for putting you in this vulnerable position. This maybe hard to comprehend but I can give you scriptural back up if you need.

For now, you need to pull yourself out of this rut. Get back on the road to your personal recovery. Get yourself back to MC/IC. Right now more than ever you need counseling support. Call Steve in the morning ok? Make an appt.

Please don't leave. We are a pretty good bunch that have helped many you know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Please stay with us and let us provide some support to help you get through this mess.

L.

tireman....
You need this place more than ever now.....don't leave. Yes, what you did was very wrong but things can be worked out.
Stay and get advice and support!

Absolutely no sympathy from me "tireman".After being here and witnessing all the pain that adultery causes and you do this TO YOUR OWN SON.

It is beyond words to think how you could do this.Sorry,I am not like the other's here who are going to support you.You have some serious counseling to do now and some serious introspection.I hope you will do this right away.

O

I am so sad for you about the possible repurcussions this has on your relationship with your son. I just cannot begin to imagine how you deal with this. I can feel your anguish but have no wise words. TT

Okay, before anyone gets as freaked out as I was for a moment there are several red flags about this post.
#1 his id # is about 150 higher than the last registerd user.
#2 he says he has been here a long time but he doesn't shorten things like wife to W.
#3 if you look at his two posts they both say they are his second post? how does that work?

#1 The newest member is Mitzi05 who has a member number of 40854,so it looks like tireman registered recently,like today.

#2 He did use the acronym WW

#3 I have noticed this "phenomenon" too.It seems to me that the posts all *now say how many you have posted,not numbered like 1,2,3,4 etc.Not positive though.

edited for typos

<small>[ February 08, 2005, 08:01 AM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

All of your posts say the number you have posted in total. They are not listed as 1, 2, 3, 4 etc. If you have posted 4 times, they all say 4.
Danielle

Well I'm just a big ol' dummy sorry bout that there...I'll just go stand in the corner now.

There there Mr.E(pat pat) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Stay...but by all means GET PROFESSIONAL HELP.

And I take offense at you calling your son's wife, your daughter in law, a slut...SHE SLEPT WITH YOU DIDN'T SHE? You don't have the right to do that.

You need to get some help. Please stay and learn. Contact a psychologist or counselor or at least your pastor to get some immediately.

This is very sad. Your son is defending our country, putting his life on the line, and you do this. It's not like you couldn't say no. It's not like you didn't know this is VERY VERY WRONG.

Your daughter in law may have suffered from not having any EN's being met. You as a MB, know this. And it's sad. Nothing should have EVER been allowed to escalate to this level...and the fact you're much older than she is...You are older, have more life experience, and are experiencing the pain from adultery.

This makes no sense to do. But don't call her a slut. WORK ON YOURSELF.

And yes, we welcome you, but ONLY IF YOU ARE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE...BE A BIG MAN ABOUT THIS..POST UNDER YOUR OTHER NAME.

Stay...but by all means GET PROFESSIONAL HELP.

And I take offense at you calling your son's wife, your daughter in law, a slut...SHE SLEPT WITH YOU DIDN'T SHE? You don't have the right to do that.

You need to get some help. Please stay and learn. Contact a psychologist or counselor or at least your pastor to get some immediately.

This is very sad. Your son is defending our country, putting his life on the line, and you do this. It's not like you couldn't say no. It's not like you didn't know this is VERY VERY WRONG.

Your daughter in law may have suffered from not having any EN's being met. You as a MB, know this. And it's sad. Nothing should have EVER been allowed to escalate to this level...and the fact you're much older than she is...You are older, have more life experience, and are experiencing the pain from adultery.

This makes no sense to do. But don't call her a slut. WORK ON YOURSELF.

And yes, we welcome you, but ONLY IF YOU ARE WHO YOU SAY YOU ARE...BE A BIG MAN ABOUT THIS..POST UNDER YOUR OTHER NAME.

tireman....I might know a place where you can get some help if this is for real. Send me a message: starfish4729@gmail.com