I have been trying to find this Dr Phil board and was amazed and uplifted by what I just read; written by Kandi.(Thanks to those that helped me find it.)

I feel priveledged to know Kandi through Marriage Builders message board.

This is her message, to the OW that was on the Dr Phil show, when Kandi was on.

" I'M SORRY JOI



kandintx 02.08.05 - 12:10am (318.1.1)


Joi, I had no intentions of hurting YOU or your child! AS I said on the show and to Julie, I spent a good amount of time with your daughter...Your daughter is absolutely gorgeous as her mother! She came to me right away as I walked her around in the hallway..she immediately stopped crying when she was in my arms...I could have held her all day long, as I felt so badly for her, cuz they had just taken her away from her mommy. When I had to put her down as it was time for me to go downstairs, she started crying again...They wouldn't let me pick her up again to calm her down. She is an absolute DOLL!
Joi, you have to understand that the comment I made about your child not being here was not meant to hurt, BUT as you know, being up there, they do not give you much time to retract your statements...What I meant was...the child was conceived out of an AFfair...something that has destroyed MY family. My children were brougth into this world planned my me and my husband. The child that is about to enter into this world was not...it was out of lust and deceit. An affair that broke my family apart.

When I posted the above post, I felt badly afterward as I was angry at the original poster...I do not portray myself as a beautiful individual as everyone seems to think I am...I am a regular MOM of three boys...not sure if you got to meet my boys, but they are very special...they played with your daughter very well, and were quite good with her...Those blue eyes...OMG...She is realy beautiful Joi! And so are you! I trully mean that...

I wanted to say something to you on the show, but wasn't given the chance. You say that you are no trophy wife! YOu CAN be Joi! Look at you! You are a beutiful individual! I am angry at the people on her who thought that you were Ed's OW and said you were Ugly...You are not ugly..I do believe you are much more attractive than the TV has portrayed you..You have got to have more respect for YOURSELF.

I cant take back what I said on TV...It was not a comment directed at YOU or your child, but at MY situation and you just so happen to be there..I had NO IDEA that they were going to put me on the spot that way and ask me how I felt about what you were saying! I didnt' want to come on the show after hearing they brought an OW in...I didnt find this out utnil I got there! I was actually more dumbfounded by Brittnay's sit....

I do agree that they did not spend more time with YOU in dealing with your situation..Obvioulsty you do want to end this with the MM...I know in my sit, that Ed is the one who has continued the contact with the MM...

Joi, Iwas angry at the poster who started this thread...I was pointing out some things she had mentioned. I am not a bitter angry person...but am only tryng to move on with my life. Please, get out of that situation..yes, you ahve a daughter together..that daughter deserves a father...but please consider having the WIFE be a part of that childs life. Everyone is hurt...EVeryone is the victim, but especially the child...

I would like to invite you to a board I am a long time member of...Please email me...I will give julie permission to relese my info to you...

I actually came on here in hopes of finding another thread that someone posted to me, but ran across this one first. This poster really mad me upset...

I hope you can forgive me and email me please..I would love to help you if you would take my offer! Thanks and take care!

<small>[ February 08, 2005, 11:13 AM: Message edited by: Blessed TIME ]</small>