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Ok, I've had just about enough!!! My WH has pi$$ed me off! He sent me an email saying how I have low self esteem and that I don't spend quality time with our son. How the h#ll does he know...he doesn't live here.
I want to scream in his face right now. I couldn't control myself so I sent him an email and blasted him. I'm just so sick and tired of his crap! Who does he think he is? He's saying I have low self esteem.....I wrote and told him that he needed to look closer to home....him and the maggot are the one's with low self esteem. I told him she is the one running around with a married man so I think she's the one with the self esteem problem. I also told him not to contact me anymore....I'm done with him and have no use for him in my life and that I'm so much better off without him. UUUGGGHHHHHH!
Just wanted to vent.

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Unfortunately, you just let him know he can still push your buttons. His 'trying to help' schtick wasn't working so he went for the low blow.

Next time he gets on your nerves, say it into a tape recorder then delete it. Or write it and burn it.

Block his email. You need an intermediary ASAP.

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Plan B right now! Block that email and don't listen or read a word he says. What a complete jerk! Come here and vent instead of letting him know he can push your buttons. Some people get a strange satisfaction out of pestering others. Kind of the equalvalent of tearing the legs off a bug one limb at a time. Sick, sick, sick.

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Sweetie, it's time to call him on his horse sh*t. There is a name for what he's trying to do...it's called emotional abuse. Sure, he dresses it up as care and concern, but really, he's trying to make you believe all that blather about you being a unattentive mom and that you feel unworthy so that you'll turn over and let him ream you some more (sorry for the graphic).

Turn the emails over to your lawyer and ask if it constitutes emotional abuse....it does in Texas (per my lawyer).

I hate your wh. I mean it. I loathe the person he is right now.

- Kimmy

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Sweetie, it's time to call him on his horse sh*t. There is a name for what he's trying to do...it's called emotional abuse. Sure, he dresses it up as care and concern, but really, he's trying to make you believe all that blather about you being a unattentive mom and that you feel unworthy so that you'll turn over and let him ream you some more (sorry for the graphic).

Turn the emails over to your lawyer and ask if it constitutes emotional abuse....it does in Texas (per my lawyer).

I hate your wh. I mean it. I loathe the person he is right now.

- Kimmy

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You are right...I lost it! I just can't stand this anymore! Why can't he just leave me alone???????? If he's so happy with the OW then why bother me at all????

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Tree, I'm with De-alan-de. I loathe him too and all like him.

But honey you gotta do what the smarter people than us say.

Go absolutely plan B dark. ABSOLUTELY dark. Corkscrew swamp on a moonless night dark.

He plays you like a violin right now.

You saying NOTHING will slaughter him far better than your righteous anger did today.And it will scare him and he will try to provoke you into responding.
You gotta be stronger than this hun for your OWN personal recover even if not marriage building.

Plan B his [censored] right now. Do it smart, get ARk & folks to help with your preparation and letter and go as dark as a black hole.

THEN you take the whip hand. Better for you, better for cam. Who give s a shiny sh*t if its better or worse for WH ?

DO this STRONG thing Trish. Do it NOW. Stop him headf'king you.
{{{{trish}}}}

<small>[ February 08, 2005, 05:29 PM: Message edited by: b0b pure* ]</small>

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ok, I've had just about enough!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No, sadly enough you haven't. If you had, you would block his email, REGARDLESS of keeping a trail of them for your attorney. There is NO reason to keep playing this game, unless you are getting some kind of payout....what is your payout?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I just can't stand this anymore! Why can't he just leave me alone????????
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YOU have the power to stop it. Why aren't you doing it?

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committed....You are right...I do have the power to stop it and I am! I am changing my email address tonight.
I know this may souond stupid but in some tiny way I was hoping that he would come to his senses. I don't know why! I guess there's always that little bit of hope left in us huh? I know my M is over but sometimes it's just really hard to accept.

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committed....You are right...I do have the power to stop it and I am! I am changing my email address tonight.
I know this may souond stupid but in some tiny way I was hoping that he would come to his senses. I don't know why! I guess there's always that little bit of hope left in us huh? I know my M is over but sometimes it's just really hard to accept.

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Tree he MIGHT coem to his senses as a result of plan B. He has to feel every day what life is like without your being a part of it.

That involves not being able to manipulat eyou nor recive your absolution for his sin.

You MUST go dark Tree. Whetehr you recover your M or not it is serious plan B time.
{{{tree}}}

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Tree - I go thru that kind of stuff all the time - ALL THE TIME. My WW keeps after me to get counselling for my low self esteem - so I went. After 2 sessions my IC said, "I can't see that there's anything you are missing - you seem to have it altogether - I'd rather not charge you for this session" She said to come back if I need help grieving if a D happens.

Do what you can to protect yourself - but hon - protect yourself from LBing him. As someone else has said to me over and over - "DON'T FEED THE A" - an LB is perfect food for an A.

If you need to go dark, do it. Otherwise, just remember that it's an alien talking to you and not a one of us can understand alien speak....

David

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Tree...listen to those good advice.

Dont let WS push your button again. The less you respond to his talk, message or emails...the better you will be...

Keep telling yourself that you will NO LONGER allow WS to control your emotions... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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He just can't leave you alone! TT

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How can he leave you alone, you're like candy Tree....LOL

Yeah, I suppose it is time to go dark, changing your e-mail is a good idea...don't forget to give me the addy LOL

-Caren

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Thanks everybody!
I know you are all very right! I get so angry with his emails that I just snap and lose control. Uggghhh....I was doing so good staying dark and then I blew it! I wish I didn't have to see him twice a week at my son's baseball practices.
I am going to go dark again. This is so frustrating!

Caren...I'll send you my new addy as soon as I think of a good screen name. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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