Come on out. I have spotted you and want to hear from you regardless of what you are doing.

Bumping for Dyinghere to give us an update. We still care about you!!!!!!

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I'm afraid that she is allowing him to cake-eat. He's probably convinced her to allow him to take it slowly.

Been there-done that.

Hopefully she will come back like I eventually did.

You are probably right Mimi. Such a pity! I hope she does come back and tells us how she is doing.
So many people just go away. I can't help remembering Tireman... so sad.

hello everyone

No I have not disappeared I come all the time and lurk.

Read your poll cc46.

See all the good advice you are giving carenmc mimi.

You could say there is all to tell or nothing to tell.

What has actually happened is that I have reached a place where my heart and mind are finally together. Some days they are more together than others but each day gets better. I am doing things for me I will never rely on another person again. I am happy my children are happy.

WH has finished his A. He no longer goes to see her or calls her (i have all phone records). But of course there is work. The disentanglement has begun but unfortunately it takes a process.

He ended it on Feb 9. WH has come out of his fog although he mind does go to another planet sometimes. He is more attentive actually talks to the kids again and is doing things with the family and friends.

He has told me he realises what he could have lost.

I have told him that we cannot even think about our marriage until OW is out of our lives.

OW is requesting a large settlement when she finishes. Surprise surprise.

I see he is different but from all the reading and posts I know that it is only when NC is made will we be able to R and work on our marriage.

I am well aware that she is ever hopeful and that sometimes a part of him is drawn to her with the contact of work but the legality of the situation has proven that we must work through the leaving process.

I am therefor back in Plan A so to speak but I keep Plan B in my pocket.

WH told me yesterday that he told DD17 when he was at his friends for that 5 days that when she got her new car that she was going to have to take care of it clean it etc she told him that she would put it in the garage so she would not have to clean it so much he said what about mine she said well you would be there will you. He said that actually floored him. Out of the mouths of babes.

Will post more have to drop DD15 off to dance now.

Thank you so much for your advice and concern I still need it. I do take it from all the posts.

DH, good to see you back!!! Hope things work out. I know it takes time, but every now and then do drop in and say hello.
hugs, cc

We especially want to hear good news!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Why have you been keeping us in the dark?

Is it good news?

Mimi I dont know I dont feel safe my gut feeling is that something could go wrong. I dont know why. I think it is because of the continued contact at work.

Although he has said he realised many things which included that he felt in a fog (you wouldnt believe it unless you heard it) he could not do or concentrate on anything, didnt want to see or talk to anyone, somthing just clicked in his brain and he saw all the triats in her that he hates. He said he wants his family he wants his wife he will do anything to make it up to me. But we still have too deal with her disassociation and I dont know I just feel odd that we cant have no contact instantly.

I think he wants to think that he can make everything perfect for everyone and in trying to do this he will actually destroy it all.

I dont know I just dont feel comfortable. So I did not post because I am not listening to words but watching actions.

Did you ever feel the time your H came back from the OW that everthing was going to be okay that you could start to rebuild or did you have any suspicion that he might slip???