I am really, really depressed. I thought we were on the right track but she is so deep into this EA (which may be a PA) that she can't get out. She has hurt me and the kids and it just tears my heart out. She lies and lies which really hurts me.

My brother sat me down Monday night and told me I am in denial. He said my WW is so far gone in the EA that I just need to step back and accept it. He is right - time to back off and let her ruin her life.

3 EA's in 9 years; won't go to counseling with me. Not much I can do.

I came home last night to our big, beautiful Victorian home. We bought it 8 years ago because my wife fell in love with it. It took me 8 years to renovate which I did almost all myself. As I walked through the house, with no wife, and no kids, I fell to my knees and sobbed and sobbed like I have never sobbed before. I miss my wife, my kids and most of all my life. I want to be happy again.

Everyone, you have helped me so much. Let's all lean on each other.

(((((((((((BHINWI)))))))))))))))

I'm sorry you're so down. Which plan are you in hon??

I know how you feel, it's awful, and you don't deserve it.

You're a good man, and you are fighting the good fight....you have to believe that good will prevail.

Your wife having multiple EA's over the years is a sign that the M needs work, but now you have the tools!!!!

It'll all work out.

-Caren

CarenMC,

Thanks. I know I a good man, husband, father but this entire thing has flushed my self-esteem and confidence down the toilet.

I am moving to plan B. She needs to figure this one out on her own.

How are you doing?

Keith