HI guys I have not been here in awhile but Things are going prety good with my H and I were doing ok in recovery ups and downs as expected. but i'm having a few minor problems I could use help with the first beeing soem of his needs.The first is he likes to be called baby etc he hasnt told me this in ahwlie but today he mentioned it. its hard for me to do i feel uncommfrotable (dont know why) but i do. i especailly feel comfortable and can not start doing this right away b/c he just told me. i dont want him to rfeel that he tells me and i just start doing it he'll think i'm being fake.
the other mistake i made and dont know how to really fix is that we are filling bankruptcy (we started and reserved a laywer back in sept of 2003) but we had to pay it off wouldnt finish until april 2004 but once that time came we had other money problems. so we borrowd the money and paid it off august 2004. we filled in sept 2004 then there was some damage to the court house and our papers were ruined we werent informed util a few weeks ago and life has been hectic. so todya my car broke down so i was out of work couldnt get a rental car until about 3 pm *laywer closes at 5. so he tells me i should go get the papers today. i explained i couldnt and we both got upset. we both get defensive about the bankruptcy. he feels i've been stalling and he doesnt get it.he feels like i always have to be in control and that when we dfilled out the papers the first time i did the hole thing (even though 99 percent of the debt is in my name and only a few big things are in his name alone) so obvously i hunted down my own info and put it in he would not do the work calling and getting all the account numbers etc. so why wouldnt i do it
? he reviewed it and signed it never saying anythign . so he is derfensive because he wants to get it over wit. i feel like when he talks to me most of the time i feel put down like he is talking down to me. like i'm his child or something and i get defensive. b/c most of the time i feel like hes pointing otu something i'm doing wrong. i also thoguht when we first got back together he wanted to hurry up and do the bankruptcy so we could seperate adn that fear always creeps back in my head. but now i feel bad and feel guilty b/c he blames me that it has been a year and ahalf and this thing is still not filled <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> i want him to forgive me that it didnt get done back last year and keep going but i feel like he's agiants me that its me and him against each other isntead of joined. any ideas
