my d-ay was right after x-mas for six weeks i believed it was only one kiss. He ended it right there had nc even know they worked toghter .He just ignored her and then told her it was a mistake she said she figured it out. She finally told her h and he threated mine but both agreed to work on there own m. But then he told me more he told me at work in her car they found a spot and almost went all the way she had a skirt on i guess he said he stopped just before they were gonna do it.This killed me.they were'nt even prepared i was so upset he said they did'nt do it but it was close enough. he still went to get tested after i told him of could of still happened after all he really did'nt know her.After getting so close to him again because we drefted apart and so close to him sexually i told him i can't be with him or even change in front of him right now. he told me that don't matter he just wants us to heal in our minds and then we can worry about that. We have plans to go away this weekend for the first time ever by ourselves. we never even had a honeymoon.He don;t mind that i might not be able to do anything else other than be there.to try to have a good time.How do i get over this new info. How do i know after he lied that they really did'nt go all the way? He said he got scared and stopped. Can a male really be excited and then just lose it?I need to know how not to think of this and what they did. He never loved her or even came close to.WE are in such a better place he does everything fo me i hear those words more then ever i heard them so much in these past six weeks then i have in 12 yrs that goes for me two cause i never said them that much either.I know we will be happy i just do'nt know were to start.

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LL

The best thing you can do is put the past in the past. It sounds like your husband really loves you and is showing you with ACTIONS. That is the most important thing - talk is cheap.

I know it is a horrible shock that this happened. But now you know how fragile a marriage can be. Go on your vacation and have a nice time. Crying is normal at first, but I promise you things will get much better.