Hi Everyone,

I have mentioned before in another thread that I confronted my wife in August of 2004 with recorded phone tapes and it ended up that she was not going to see or talk to these guys again....

After coming back from our family holiday in Mexico i started to notice she was drawing back from me, i was starting to be happy again she was huggin and kissing and we started to feel close again but that last couple of weeks had open the gates of hell again... I have palced a phone recorder found the other mans voice again, she was meeting up with them when she goes out.....
this has nearly killed me that it was still going on and I feel i was played with and my kids in the middle.....
She is very heavy involve with the co-worker but she tells the OM2 she loves him but I dont catch them only by an email three weeks ago....

I been putting the recorder in her car everytime she goes out and it always hear her talking to him on her cell and they meet up in locations...
I have started to place a GPS in her car and found three location where they meet but so far not consistance place...
the hardest thing I had to hear was on last Sunday she said she was going to the mall and she ended up meeting the co-worker and having sex in her car where our children sit every day....
This mad me break down, i feel i am at the stage of loosing it and I am not sure how to handle it. I am sure thes guys are feeding her that she wont get caught and i have no proof....

I need help to figure out how to handle this, i am trying to get all the evidence I can and plan to confront her again but she will go balistic and try to start slapping and kicking which i cannot defend myself due to if she gets a mark on her even from pushing her away the police will take her side.

I was thinking to talk to my bestman and tell him whats goign on and maybe he can talk to his wife which is wifes ant (she is only 5 years older than wife) and knock some sense in her when this comes out so atleast if she goes wild they would be their....

I am really confused and depressed right know and not sure what to do, I am listening to each day recording and trying to put a happy face but it's hard when you go to kiss youe wife and she pulls back and no sex in weeks and she is having sex with the OM....

Please help me to guide me staight to what to do.
Thanks.

Deeppain,

I am sorry your thread got lost amid the many posters on this board.
I have read it a couple times and I really am not sure myself what to say.
You mentioned the police being involved. Has there been domestic violence issues in the past?

I think that you are thinking ahead and are very smart to have someone there as a witness if there have been domestic violence issues in the past.

I applaud you for knowing all of this about hour WW and keeping it silent. When my H does something I cannot keep silent and seem to get upset and then he knows. This is not good if you are trying to find out things without them knowing. good luck to you!!