I'm still getting divorced...SORRY

but more importantly....

MY D CAME HOME!!!!!!!!!

After 5 months of living with some jerk of a boyfriend who I'd rather call a child molester because I've learned that he's 24 years old!!!
Don't worry I've already started the wheels of Justice so they might run him over!!!

but I wanted to say 2 all of YOU from the bottom of my heart...

Thank you all for your prayers and sincere concerns regarding my princess. My D returned home Tuesday morning. She came home on her own. I am so overwhelmed with relief and happiness!!

The reminder of the day is:

There are FAR WORSE things to experience than a divorce from a cheating/fogheaded spouse.

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FAMILY ALWAYS MATTERS!!!!!!!!!!!

FM, I also post as "walkingoneggs" and remember your story fairly well. Believe you are in DC area. Anyway it is hard to believe that something could be worse than divorcing a fogbound spouse but I'll take your word. I have 3 kids myself. You also kept your head when chaos was all around you. Good luck to you sir. When one door closes another opens. And congratulations on the return home of your daughter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hi FM,
Good to hear from you, even if all the news is not good.

How are YOU doing?

SS

Hi FM:

I've been wondering what happened 2 you. Sorry 2 hear about the DV, but so glad 2 hear your D came home.

I'd also like 2 hear more about how you're doing now, 2.

Please keep us posted, and take care,
-ol' 2long

glad she is home and safe...
blessing to you familymatters...

hope you are well as well

ARK

FM so glad your D came home ! prayers come true !

The burden on your heart must be lifted tonight!

Sorry about your M, bit your D coming back is wonderful !!!!!!!!!

THANK GOD !!!!!!!!!!!

Hi guy! Good to see ya!! Great news about your D, give her a kick in the behind for me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

FM...
Glad to hear your DD came home! That's great news!!!!!

You are so right......FAMILY ALWAYS MATTERS!!!! Unfortunately my WH doesn't seem to care much about family....what a shame!

FM, This is really good news....I would give her just one of the biggest hugs in her life that she ever had...the kind when she says...."Dad, I can't breathe." I would hold her so long that she would just wonder if you were ever going to let go.

"Dear D, I gave you that really big hug because I want you to know how much I care...no matter what ever happens to us...no matter whatever happens to you and you go through life in this big bad world...never forget that feeling of your dear ol' dad's arms wrapped around you....like a secure blanket....that feeling will be a source of comfort to you on dark days when I am long gone and you have moved with your life. Nothing is a subsitute for the love of a parent."

I am soooooooooooooo glad for you, FM.

{{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

warm embrace from ss <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

glad to hear it---have been through he// and back with my teen son also---i am so glad she is safe!!

FM, Best news under the circumstances. YOur D is home safe. NO matter what else happens htis is the best news. I am so sorry about the D.

FM,

I've never posted to you, but I've followed and read your posts from last year.

Good to read your daughter returned. Hang that 24 year old's hide out to dry.

Sad about the divorce. WW will return, even if after the split. Will you be ready for your answer?

I am so happy for you {{{FM}}}!
I am glad she's safe and sound.Sorry about the divorce though. You take care.

I'm so relieved, FM. Now get a new one ripped for that screwhead.

Sorry about your D... mine is progressing nicely also.

GC

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Figured I 'd scan some of the other threads before I went to sleep and came across yours! So, so glad about DD! Regardless if we don't "mean it", children of any age look up to us parents without us consciously knowing it--it's no coincidence your DD did what she did--look at WW--it's also no coincidence your DD came home--look at YOU!

Please let us know how everything else is going. Hope to hear your speaking/writing is going in the right direction. How's DS doin'? How are *YOU* doin'?

Just drop another post (or email) and let us know how it's going.

Prayers and hope,
LINY

{{{FM}}}

Tears of joy FM!

As Liny said, hope you are using your talents in some capacity (sp) now.

I'll never forget that one thread you had with the POW (I think it was) analagy .

Great imagination and story telling skills you have.

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FM,

Good news!!! Glad to hear that your D is home. At least she choose NOT to stay in the fog. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

All the best. All that patience of yours is paying off. At least for those who care.

Aloha,
L.

Liny, Bob, Weaver, GC, Orchid, 2Long, Shelley, Ark, Melody, Tree, RAG, SS and EVERYONE!!!!
Thank You !! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
you folks are so fantastic!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

D is home and we are slowly rebuilding our bond. Words cannot express the emotional rollercoaster the last 6 months has been.

SureSurvivor, your words really touched home. I am going to rush home and read her your post. We always think our loved ones know exactly how we feel, but often they DO NOT. Thank you for reminding me to articulate my sincerest feelings.

I WILL NOT GIVE INTO BITTERNESS.
There are times I am still upset about the choices my WW has made, but they soon past, there's just too much in my life to pursue, restructure, appreciate and embrace for me to entertain thoughts of the past. It hit me a few days ago that in my mind and soul I believe my M is beyond repair. I know there should always be hope, but it seems just 2 much has transpired between WW and I. My W actually moved out while our D was missing?!?! I cannot think of a more selfish act. Even the scumiest of the scummy stick around during a crisis of that magnitude. My W's ability to focus on herself is only eclipsed by her inability to focus on others lol! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> That was a joke, I'm actually dealing with most things very well.

I am actively pursuing my life as a motivational speaker and activist. I am on Speech number 3 with Toastmasters International and I have my first paid gig scheduled for early April.

As WOE put it:
When one door closes another opens.

Though it appears I'll soon be divorced, I still appreciate my journey. I stood up for something, for my family and everything that is right with the world and with the family culture that I want my children to emulate in their future relationships. I made saving my marriage my #1 priority for as long as I could; eventually saving myself became all that I could muster. My WW has observed my selfless attitude, my committment in the face of her indifference and I believe in time she will realize her monumental loss of my love, but I'm no longer holding my breath or wishing for it,
LET IT BE.

Someone once said the opposite of Love is not Hate, but INDIFFERENCE.

I'm nearing the serene calm of indifference meanwhile I'm excited and emotional about all the mysteries life has in store.

Aint it cool? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

FM:

It is, indeed, cool!

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Hey FM,

I wish you peace and glad that I was able to be of help to you. I have read your postings all these months.....and think of your devotion to your M and your kids...the end of the day..that is what matters.

The MB site, of course, is dedicated to saving M's and I see BS's here who are suffering, but are great parents. I think that is you. Your M did not work out in the way we had all hoped, but you are a great parent...a very big job.

The love of my parents, who are both gone, got me through the last couple of months. I KNOW they were looking out for me and I felt their love....I knew I would be alright...no matter what happened in my M. That is the priceless gift you give to your kids...even with your own suffering...you have loved your kids....they are the gift of your M....

You tried as hard as you could and you probably saved you WS from greater ruin.....now you are going to put your energy into a bright future...yours and your kids.......kudos, FM.


Hug them and hug yourself...you have learned well..the next round will be sooooooo much better. Blessings, FM. ss

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