I had a few questions about actions and words the WS does while having an A! My wife who is 34 years old and I had been together 15 years and married for 7. She had an A with a 26 year old guy who has lived with his parents all of his life and has a 5 year old daughter whom his parents raise. She left me in September of 03 and stayed with family and friends until March of 04. She moved the OM into her apartment with my two daughters and has lived with him ever since. I didn't know he was living with her and found out the hard way, I checked to see. She filed for divorce in April of 04. In November 04, I was hearing rumors she was pregnant with his child and after a long while, she finally told me she was. She had his child in December 04. She waited 8 months to tell me she was having his baby and used my medical insurance to have it. I didn't know she used the insurance and found out when I got a billing statement from the insurance company. In January, we were divorced. The OM is a self proclaimed ladies man who has never lived on his own. He is a momma's boy and uses his mom and dad to bail him out of any trouble he gets into. He holds a meaningless job that pays very little and is introuble with the job most of the time. He was 22 years old when he had a child with a girl who was 17. The mother of the child couldn't care for the child so his parents took over. When the OM moved in with my wife, the child stayed with his parents. I have been told it was because "Its all she knows!" The OM has been accused of sexual misconduct with minor girls and the EX knows this. She continues to protect him even when this was told to her. In one of his cases, charges were never brought forward because the girl was an mexican national and her family was afraid to get police involved. Nothing happened to him. No report, no crime! I have talked to the OM twice on the phone. Both times, he threatens me but is unable to back up his claims of stardom! I have seen him in public and he runs away! He told me I was just pissed because he was "F**king my wife!" and told me lots of other things to try to get me into a fight with him! My job is one that I can't beat his A**. After a year plus, I have basically stopped talking to the EX. When I do talk to her, she reminds me how good the OM is, protects him, blames me for everything and shows no remorse for destroying a family! She seems to have erased me from her life. Why does a WS show no remorse or regret for the pain they caused? Does the Karma thing ever really hit them?

NMM

Thats a sad story. I cannot say if karma will hit them. There is a very poor success rate for marriages made from infidlity - something like 5% only last more than 3 years.

But I think you should expent your energies moving on with your life rather that hoping for your XWWs new life to fail.

Concentrate on being a great Dad to your daughters and a man that is happy with his reflection in the mirror.

With divorce and remarriage although very unfair, you are liberated to not worry about your XWW again, unless it affects your daughters.

Get yourself happy positively, not by wishing ill on your XWW and OM.

All blessings.

NMM,

Welcome to MB. Your story is a sad one. The fact that your children are subjected to be around such horrible people (WS and OM) is even more sad.

How can we help you? Are you able to work on getting custody of your children? It is sad the WS made you pay for the childbirth. That is horrible.

How are your children?

take care,
L.