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I am so mad. I have to vent here or Im going to call him and LB him a new a**hole.

IDIOT! WS is back, H has returned to the mothership.

He has son this weekend and has totally blown me off. No calls, no stopping by, and was very short with me when I called to tell son goodnight. That means everything must be happy happy joy joy with OW. WS is back. To top it off he has friends over. A family we agreed we wouldnt have anything to do with. UGH. We suspect them of secretly abusing drugs. Maybe selling them. H was so adament that we not hang out with them. I hate WS. I really do. I cant take this roller coaster ride of WS and H . I never know who Im going to find, ws or H. UGH!

When I find H, Im always weary at first, but after a few days I actually start to have hope that he is really back. BUT HE'S NOT and its slowly making me a mental case. Im getting to the point I need to Plan B or commit myself. I hate feeling stupid. Hate feeling like everyone looks at me like they feel sorry for me. I HATE IT! I hate WS.

What I wouldnt give to have my H come back to me........

Did not want you to go unanswered.

I see, by your sig line that you are both guilty, so to speak.

My question is, have you done a good plan A? And for how long?

Step back from all of this and think, what is the Healthiest for me, my marriage and my family? Don't react. Step back before you make any decisions. Do what is best for your marriage/you/child.

Make sure you do the best plan A before you plan B. Especially if you had a revenge affair.

Love in Christ,
Miss M

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cookies:
<strong> .... I HATE IT! I hate WS.

What I wouldnt give to have my H come back to me........ </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">First off, here's an {{{mb hug}}}. I am sorry you are in such pain. Here are my concerns and thoughts.

1. Find out if your children are in danger. If so take appropriate action. WS or H this one still answers for the actions of the other since they are still embodied together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

2. When their dad returns your children or for all future interactions, maybe you could first ask which persona is being displayed before you engage in any convo. I used to ask mine.... 'which one are you right now? WS or H?'

Ws would start showing up less and less because I refused to talk to the idiot. Instead I would take when he acted as my H should and when the glazed eyes came over him during the middle of our convo, I would abruptly end it in mid sentence and either ask him to leave or excuse myself.

Whem he would ask why I did this, I responded that he was babbling and the convo was not progressing with any viable results. Asked that he let me know when my H w/b available. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

JMHO,
L.

<small>[ February 13, 2005, 03:59 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

I see, by your sig line that you are both guilty, so to speak.

Yes, guilty as charged. I am the poster child as to why revenge affairs are the worst possible ideas.

Now my Sat night vent has poured over into Sunday. WS just called to tell me he and son will not be attending church today. WS is sick and son just wants to hang out at home. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I called WS back to clarify (BTW BAD IDEA) and WS has a million reasons why they cant go. He doesnt have anything to wear, he is very tired, son was up late...blah blah blah......I reminded him today was the monthly family day and he freaked out " Cookies WTF are you bothering me?
I immediatly hung up. 20 minutes later he calls back and tells me what time they will be here.
I regret calling him back, I dont want to be anywhere near WS. UGH! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Plan B looming.....I am going to get my letter finished and move on with my life.
WITH OR WITHOUT HIM.