Hi folks, been to a few Joint MC sessions recently and I have a few questions.

MC seems to spend 90% of time so far speaking to FWS. I do not feel that there is any hostility or favouritism from MC towards me, nor is MC ignoring me. . I actually think that she has been able to cut through a lot of the smoke and ask the questions of FWs that are important.

What I was wondering was;
* Is this normal that one of the person in MC gets most of the focus?
* Could it be that MC seems to think that FWS has the issues that need addressing more so than myself right now?
* Is this likely to spin around and will MC focus the laser on me at some later stage?

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Also, FWS wants to spend Valentines day with me, I am not sure that it is a good idea? Ever since I have known her (10+ years) we normally we do something special together. This year I was thinking that maybe she should appreciate her own company for a while so that she can reflect on what it means to be alone.

Hell, it's still going to hurt me!!!

Since you are not in plan B...i think you should spend valentine with WS...have fun and feel lucky that you still have someone to spend it with...take care <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey RMan,

I agree with Zizzy....no more time for punishment or teaching lessons....it sounds too much like LB....instead go and have fun...even if it is something quiet and pleasing to you both....

I am not sure about the MC...but from our MC experience, MC spent about 75-80% of first few sessions with FWH to get him to same page.

Hope that helps...hang in there...all those times we told ourselves we needed to stay dark in Plan B...it was to preserve our love and now we'll know why that MB says that....we need it for recovery...yup.....

zizzycool - thanks but I missed your posting prior to Valentines day.

SS - Thank you. Unfortunately didn't see your post and stayed home alone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Anyway, that was my stupid choice.

I am sorry that I haven't posted you for some time, but I just haven't been able to offer you any advice. It seems that you are the stronger one at present (of which I am very happy for you)

Saw my doc yesterday and he diagnosed me with Mild Depression and suffering from stress. That confirms what was said by many MB'ers and explains a lot. Will start a new thread about this ...

Take care ans thanks

RMan