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Main thread on urgent help needed for dyinghere

Here it is plan b letter used some of the ones poswted here to help

Dear WH

You know I love you and adore you with my heart, my mind and my body. The past few months have been the most difficult time of my life. The pain and emptiness that I experience on a daily basis is almost too much to bear. It has become evident that our marriage has suffered due to neglect by both of us. While striving to meet the needs of family, work and business we have missed each other’s needs.

Since September I have been trying to give you hope for the marriage by learning how to be a better wife to you. To give you hope that you could return to a marriage that you wanted, and for us to build our family together. But I cannot do this while your affair continues. I have waited patiently for this to end and it has been very difficult, and I am afraid that my stamina for this is waning. You have told me that it is over but you have told me so many things that were unture that I can no longer tell the difference. The only thing that shows the truth is your actions but this week even though you say it is over you have still been with OW. If it is over it is over no ifs, ands or buts you seem to be doing more talking about ending the relationship than ‘doing it’.

H as you know I am willing to do whatever it takes to correct the mistakes that we have made in the past and make our marriage together stronger and closer than we ever though possible. With all my heart I would like to build a new marriage with you. One in which we both feel loved, safe, cherished and honoured. I simply cannot continue my efforts to rebuild our marriage while you are still involved with OW.

As soon as you are willing to permanently separate from her, have no contact including phones or texts and demonstrate it to me in a credible way I will be willing to discuss our future together.

You are right no one can stop you from doing something including wild horses, but you also cannot stop me from going on with my life with or without you.

You are my husband my best friend my lover the father of our children and I would like to think that you wanted to be all these things too.

<small>[ February 13, 2005, 05:40 AM: Message edited by: dyinghere ]</small>

Dying-

I think that your Plan B letter is good, I'm not an expert by any stretch of the imagination, so wait for others like Mimi and MortarMan to give you the green light. I am supposed to be going to Plan B today, and I understand the anxiety, I feel like I'm going to throw up just thinking about it, I know it's what I have to do, but it doesn't make it any easier (I just took a Xanax...kick in damn it kick in!!!).

Girl, I know how you feel, this is fricken horrible......but you and I both know it's the only way. This is your 2nd PBL correct? You tried to work it out after the 1st? (Correct me if I'm wrong) I admire you Dying, I really do, and I believe in you, I believe you now have the strength to see this through.

My thoughts and prayers are with you Dying....and I'm gonna be in the same boat as you today. I just wish my hands would stop shaking.

-Caren

**Edited for grammar.

<small>[ February 13, 2005, 06:39 AM: Message edited by: CarenMc ]</small>

Yes carenmac this is the second Plan B.

It is most deffinitely needed I totally feel like a doormat. Very scared nervous and shaking i know you are there girl.

Be strong i read all your posts.

It is so easy to see what other people should do but to actually do it yourself you think you know better but you dont.

Be strong

<small>[ February 13, 2005, 11:52 AM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>

I'm Sorry but I am rushing.

I would add more specifics about the changes that you have made.

Try to take out the YOU language about what he needs to do and focus more on yourself. Make sure that there is no LBing.

Be specific about your conditions: on how he needs to end the A such as a NO CONTACT letter, he can't work with her in the office, he can't see her ever again in his life, how he will insure that this will happen, etc.

Put in specific memories of special times.

Talk about your future together..children's graduations, grandchildren, etc.,alluding to what a R with you will provide that a R with the OW will not.

Remember that this is a letter that you want him to hold onto, to read over and over again.

I'm sorry to be rushing so I am not as clear as I want to be about this.

Be Strong!!!! You can do this !!!!