Pep on my other thread you said: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Personally, I think he's speaking his hurt, and not his desire to lie to you. If he wavers around, tell him, "I see how hurt you are by my lies. This is an intollerable way to conduct one's self in a marriage. I cannot un-do my past, but I can promise never to lie to you again. I humbly apologize for my past. I beg your forgiveness."
You are NOT ready to get into the meat of what he might be doing now .... just apologize as many times as you have the opportunity to do so. YOU role-model a humble remorseful X-cheating spouse for him .... coz he may need this model for future reference!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I did just that the other night. We were discussing the absence of SF since dday and I said the above to him about being sorry for bringing deception into our M and I hope some day he can forgive me. He told me he is working on it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> You are so right that I can't worry right now about what he is doing. I need to continue to work on my personal growth and healing in our M as well as be a role model. I also believe based on the past few days that you were also correct that his words and actions of late were coming from his hurt. He gave me a V day card too, very good sign. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
You are so good at getting me to put my head on straight. Thanks! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
