How do we get rid of this crazy OW?
My H and I are doing really good right now and the recovery is going great for us. My H is doing everything he can to make this easy for me and showing me the love he has for me and our marriage. The problem is with the OW...she don't wanna give up and leave us alone. She Leaves H letters and notes in our mailbox and has left them even on our door. She says she usually gets what she wants and she wants my H. She left H a Valentines Day Card yesterday on Our door. DUH!!!! We have been having alot of hang up phone calls lately too. We haven't had any contact with her or her family even though I would love to call her and tell her to leave us alone that we are happy. We think she has heard we was going to renew our wedding vows on March 12th and she just wants to cause us more problems. I do know H hasn't had any contact with her since back in October 2004. We are usually together mostly 24/7 now. She has also caused her XH problems too lately. If I call her I know I will get upset and get bad triggers and I don't wanna put myself thur that and give her what she wants again(to make me upset). We are alot closer now and she won't come between us again. H is so scared I will get to the point and give up on our marriage and make him leave. He says that is what she is trying to do. Why can't the OW leave the H alone if he has let her now he wants his marriage and gave her NO reasons to think they might ever have anything together again? How can we get this stupid crazy OW out of our life for good?? I just don't understand this.....
Me: BS, age 51
H: WS, age 53
Married: 30 years
D-day 10-1-04
Affair lasted about 3 months
Working thur this mess
Ya can find most of my story here.....
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=37;t=033478
