Last week my brother moved out of his family home and into the home of his OW. This is the second time he has cheated on his wife and one of those people you would never ever expect this from.

His wife this time did not beg, plead or ask him to stay. Instead she told him to leave and she talked with a lawyer to protect herself and her children. We told her we stood by her and what he was doing was totally wrong. We also told him that we love him but do not respect or support him. So he pretty much was alone with his fantasy.

We heard rumors that he was cheating and my mom asked him and of course he denied. I even cried on his shoulder a few months ago about my whole ordeal. How could he feel bad for me yet do the same to his wife?

He made excuses that his wife didn't clean up the house (even though she worked over 40 hours a week and he was home more than her), that he didn't feel like he loved her like he should (I use to hear that one a lot), that he couldn't stand certain things about her (stupid things that doesn't deserve someone to be cheated on) and so on. FOG FOG FOG

The OW came up to my younger brother at their job and apologized to our family. She said she is sorry for being part of something that has caused everyone pain. She said that my brother at 2A.M moved out of her house and back in with his wife. He said he misses his wife, kids and home. That he is a A**hole.

So we heard from my brother today. That yes he did go home at 2A.M and had a long night of conversation with his wife. He is the one that wants to get MC and work it out. I feel this is the best thing that could ever happen. I know that he must have issues to do this 2 times now. After the first time he swore he would never do it again. But he did. So I really do think that IC and MC will help. I pray that they can find one another again and have a happy healthy marriage that they had at one point.

It's funny how when a person gets what they want. In this case freedom to be with the OW. That the fantasy becomes reality and it's not what they thought. I guess the fog lifts and the blinders come off.

Also my mom has had so much on her the last year. I don't know how she does it. She is so depressed and worried about us yet she is our rock when we need someone to lean on. Not just with my whole situation but also with both of my brothers. We are all having problems in our marriage. So I am happy that she will get some relief tonight. Knowing that at least my brother realizes he has a problem and wants to try to work things out.

That is great to hear. I hope MC for your brother goes well!!!

Maybe you can do something special for your mom to show your appreciation for her being a rock for you!! I know I wouldn't know what to do without my mom. I am not ashamed to admit it I'm a mama's girl!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

MarylandLady-

That's great news for your family!!! It's nice that they would support your brother's wife, I get no support from my husband's family......his Dad died before he was born and his Mom says "He's a grown man, and he doesn't listen to me anyway".

That's fine, I'll do it all myself, like I do everything else!!! I don't think my WH's family necessarily "supports" his decision, they just don't say anything to him one way or the other....GAWD I wish his Granny was still alive, she'd kick his butt up in between his shoulder blades.

Anyway, Good News!!! I'm glad they are getting MC, and that he woke up and smelled the coffee of his own accord <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren

I also think it's great that you and your family support your SIL. I get no support from my WH's family. NONE!!!! They don't even speak to me. I've been in this family for 17 years and their son/brother did this to me and they are treating me like I've done somthing wrong. UUUGGGHHHHH!
I wish I had in-laws like you NIM. You are doing the right thing!!!!!

I have been lucky. My husbands family totally supports me. Even my SIL told me yesterday that I could move in with her if I ever wanted to. That she will always see me as her sister no matter what happens.

Some may say that you should support someone no matter what they do. Would you support a drug addict because he loves getting high?? Would you support someone you knew was doing wrong? No matter what pain or destruction their actions caused others. Like my mom said "Yes I love my son but I also love my grandchildren and his wife." Did they have a say in the matter. All the pain and sadness because two people were so selfish not caring who got hurt in the process.

When affairs happen it not only hurts a BS or the children but there are others. In my case my mom, dad, brothers, children, husbands parents and family, friends, my grandparents and so on. But the two people involved in the affair turn their back like only they matter and how they feel at the moment. But one day they will see the damage their actions has caused. And one day they will reap what they sow.

I agree!!!! Like it says in my sig line....
What goes around comes around!!!!
They will get what they deserve in the end!

I also think the idea of doing something special for my mom would be nice.