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#1277063 02/16/05 12:39 AM
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H was dropping son off tonight and we were hanging out a little and he starts his snide OW comments. How he is sick of her and doenst want her around. I typically ignore this crap and pretend I didnt hear him. If he didnt want to be with her he wouldnt be with her. Period!
He once again asks about MC. I asked "is she out and is there no contact?"
"well not yet, but Im thinking of moving her in with Nana and dumping her [censored]" Excuse me? Moving her in with Great-grandma is breaking up with N/C? I must have once again looked shocked because he went on, " oh then she will be out and I wont care" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
For the first time I made very clear my expectations of N/C. No moving in with nana, no occasional calls, no staying friends, NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT. EVER! I stated it calmly, without LBing and we went on to have a fun visit.

Im so terrible at reverse babble. I think my plan A is going beautifully and Im pretty sure plan B is coming soon. I feel ready.

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cookies....
be wary. and keep your ears open...

agreeing to no contact should not necesarrily mean free pass to move home....

often there are false recoveries and continual contact...

moving in with nana is not such a bad idea...keeps you and children protected from a withdrawaling depressed spouse.....

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LOL, I think she means her husband is suggesting that he move his OW in with his great grandmother....

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OH GOOD GRIEF..............

BLEEECHHHHHHHHHH

SORRY!

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Yes, moving OW in with Nana would kill 2 birds with 1 stone. Nana wouldnt be alone and he would be rid of OW. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

The N/C isnt for him to move home. Its for us to begin MC. We have had 2 false recoveries, thanks to MB I can now see what has been happening. Before I was navigating blindly.


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