So, it's my birthday and our 5th anniversary. I was really anxious about today because I was afraid of how I might react if he emailed me to wish me a happy birthday, but I was equally worried of how I might take it if he did not email me. I didn't think there was an even worse possibility. (I'm in Plan B with him, so I rarely hear from him anyhow)

I just opened my email to find an email from him, but it was just a bloody CC from him to my attorney about getting the last bit of paperwork back to her so she can proceed with the divorce. Yeah, that's JUST what I needed to see today. Not anything about my birthday, just a freaking reminder of the fact that the life I knew and loved has fallen apart and he doesn't even think of me anymore.

I hurt so bad today. I just want today to be over! Why would he do this?!?

Dear Daz,

{{{hugz}}} WS' are not known for being humane, kind and considerate.

You certainly don't mind losing a WS but I know you mourn the loss of your H. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Have you ever asked the WS to send your H home? Ask to speak to your H one more time. I did. Made the WS cry. That's quite a feat in the fog. LOL!!!

Ok, this s/b a happy day for you. Is there someone else you can celebrate with?

L.

Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday dear Dazed. Happy Birthday to you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Okay, so it probably doesn't make you feel better. But I tried!


Oh and here is a sick twist that might make you laugh?

You could email him back saying that giving this paperwork was a great birthday gift--now he can finally be out of your life!!!

Actually, his inconsideration of how you might be feeling today is just further evidence that it is good he is going, no?

Sorry you are hurting!!!

Thanks Orchid and Freefromlies. I guess I'm just stunned. Although we haven't been talking, this is probably the most insensitive thing he's done since DDay. Before this, he'd send me emails saying he hoped I was ok and business was good. But today, of all days, THIS is what I get?

I'm just baffled. The man I knew is clearly long gone, and I'm not sure whether I'm more sad for him or me. I would have bet millions of dollars that he'd never be this way, I would have lost.
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Dazed sweetie what part of ca are you in?
I'm in monterey.

I'm in Sacramento, but it feels like hell today.

Oh your not too far away.....well you should come down ehre one day...use it as an excuse to get away...we can go out to lunch...I did that alot in the begining...took DS to the museum in San jose and such.....lemme know if you wanna head down here.

Dazed,
You are in good hands with Orchid & Free

Just wanted to let you know you're not alone in Ca. I'm down in so Cal.

Mac