I notice that you spend a lot of time helping people out the MB site. How would you feel if you were helping a disfellowshipped person that was going through a trying time? Would you treat them like any other MB friends or if you knew that about them, would it change your viewpoint?

I guess the answer is no. I did not expect more. If my family deserted me, I can expect no more from a stranger.

Hi Yokohamarose,

Weekends are usually very slow around here... I'm sure that Orchid will reply to you when she notices your post...

Is there anything that I can help you with?

Semper Fi,
RIF

<small>[ February 21, 2005, 09:53 AM: Message edited by: yokohamarose ]</small>

Hi Yokohamarose,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I guess I was trying to take some anger out on Orchid as I had to go through this basically by myself as I believe I am disfellowshipped from the same religion as Orchid. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don't understand what you mean by disfellowshipped... Are you saying that your church will not allow you to fellowship with them because of your H's A?

I read through all of your posts and I don't see anywhere in them where both you and your H have gone through any MC... I suspect that the main reason that you are still angry and resentful is because you and your H have never worked through all of the issues...

Please let me know if there's something specific that we can help you with...

Again, the weekends are really slow and sometimes posts get pushed down a couple of pages... when that happens, you have to go find it and "bump" it up yourself... eventually, someone will respond.

Semper Fi,
RIF

YR -

My husband was asked not to come to church while he is still having the affair. However he can end the affair, repent, and go back to church.

In your church are you disfellowshiped forever? Is there a way to mend the fences? It seems especially sad that you are cut off from your family and sister.

I think the majority of the folks on this board will be happy to support you. After all, it is a marriage support board. There are all kinds of beliefs here, but we generally all pull together.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by yokohamarose:
<strong> I notice that you spend a lot of time helping people out the MB site. How would you feel if you were helping a disfellowshipped person that was going through a trying time? Would you treat them like any other MB friends or if you knew that about them, would it change your viewpoint? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">YokohamaRose,

I did not see this post until this morning. I joined this site because my M suffered from infidelity and in addition to the congregational support I received, I needed specific help in this area. MB has done that without my having to compromise my personal beliefs.

This is not a religious site. People of all walks of life post here. I am comfortable posting here and help where and when I can.

If by chance I end up posting to someone as you describe as 'disfellowshipped', I probably would not know for sure unless I was told directly. This is an anonymus site. If I was told directly, I would do what I need to do and still provide the help that is needed.

If you have further questions, you may e-mail me at: mborchid2@yahoo.com

L.

YR,

I received your e-mail and sent my reply How are you doing today?

L.

I received yours as well. Thank you for your reply. I appreciate that you took the time to do that. There are many issues that I did not include in my message and that because of our circumstances, I guess cannot be discussed. I have not been on MB long enough to know much about you such as if you have children, how long you have been married etc. but I am happy that your marriage has survived and I really hope that your husband does go back as I know how much easier it will be for both of you if he does. Thanks for checking in. That was nice of you.

YR,

Good to hear from you. As I mentioned in my e-mail and as normally here in MB, we can all help to a point.

Let me know where you stand and I will see what I can do. I wish you well on your personal recovery. That is foremost important before any relationship recovery can be achieved.

take care,
L.