Last night I was talking with a girl who attends class with me. She has been separated from her husband for four years (they never got the divorce). They have two boys.

they have both had relationships during this time, she even has a daughter with another man she was living with.

Well she and her husband are reconciling and house shopping right now.

I thought this was such a nice story.

I don't hold out the same hope for my situation. I'm just about done with things and the thought of my husband touching me repulses me, which it never did before--that is a big signal to me that i'm almost done. I'm also not sure I'm "in love" with my husband anymore. Thought I was, but now I'm not so sure. I'm wondering if I've been fighting this fight just so I would not lose w/o the fight.

I do not regret anything I've done up to this point and I'm proud of the way I've fought for something that was so very important to me. But now...if I continue trying to fight, I just may regret it.

Anyway, I just wanted to share something nice with y'all.

Aislinn, it always gives me hope to hear of folks who had BAD M troubles working their way through them to be together.

It also gives me hope to hear of folks who have given their WS every chance, but who are considering quitting MB while they still have their self respect.

You know when the time is right Aislinn.

I'v smelled something on the breeze re: your sitch since Christmas. You'll be able to alway ssay you gave your M everything. And who knows, you may be like the folks you met today in future?

Or happy without your WH. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

All blessings

Wow, about the story from your friend. That is something special, I guess ... with an OC involved.

As for you Ace, you did it right. Gave it your all. Many times I thought, that Maddy is crazy, she has such a faithful heart and disposition. But you went the way of integrity. It is a painful road though isn't it?

But you can walk the rest of the way without the burden of thinking you didn't do enough.

{{Maddy}}

Ace (I like that Tom),

You will feel good about yourself knowing that you gave your M a chance to recover and that you gave it your all. Not all can say that. One thing I've noticed recently, for whatever reason, but it takes two to recover a Marriage after these things.

{{{{{Aislinn}}}}}

YOu did your best...at least you can say you fought with all your might. I feel the same way you do. I just believe that sometimes, it's better to walk alone than to drag a sick person behind you.
I wish you the best!!!!

I know a thing or three about "self-recovery" and sometimes it happens .... it's called life. Be better inspite of it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

"It's better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hang in there ... it's not about "our" plans sometimes.

Lynn

I like Ace too! Of course to me you will always be Maddy. I didn't even know who your were when you responded on my thread as Aislynn. But getting used to it now.

I noticed a certain peaceful serenity to you lately too.

I knew it was over with my DD's dad when the thought of him touching me repulsed me too. They say sex is the last to go and when that is gone, it is over. Don't know if that is true or not, but I did read that somewhere.

Of course people do fall in love with each other again, as is the case with your friend. When that happens it is so nice, especially when they have kids.

Keep on doing whatever you are doing cuz you sound really good.