There seems to be a large percentage of individuals who may have a misunderstanding toward Keylogging software.
Working in the IT troubleshooting area over the years I have seen and repaired many computers infested with what is classified as spyware. Spyware is software (usually poorly written) that is placed on your computer with your permission (By accepting *EULA* End User License Agreement)or without your permission. It is set-up and placed there with the intention as simple as monitoring your surfing habits, or maliciously stealing your personal information. Most times the spyware is packaged with free programs, toolbars, or applications you find desirable. This information, the spyware is designed to retrieve, is then sent to a remote location, out of your control, and used by its creator or owner for whatever purpose they see fit.

Now what about Keyloggers.....
They too could be used as malicious spyware however, when an individual purchases the Keylogger software from a reputable firm and installs it onto a machine (they own), the purchaser controls the extent of the keyloggers monitoring usage and extension. Not someone you do not even know possibly in a far away Country.
Keyloggers used in this way offer the owner an opportunity to keep track of their kids surfing habits, or in many of our cases to uncover an affair.
Can this be classified as Spying?
Of course it can and in a perfect world trust would never be questioned.
We do not live in a perfect world and many of us have found out honesty does not exist in an affair. The only way we could ever regain trust, honesty, and our marriages back is to uncover the affair.
Keyloggers are a tool!
A tool is to be used for the purpose it was created.
So IMHO Keyloggers are not spyware in the currently defined Internet sense of the word. They are a local tool to be used to uncover information needed to protect your family and its members.
They should not be used for any other reason or intent!

The decision is ultimately yours whether you purchase this ability or to what extent you use this capability. A far cry from what actual spyware does.

SM

SM, what is going on with you lately? Do you still trust that the A is over? Does your W still work with the OM? Is she officially a FWW, or are you unsure?

Please give an update. Thanks!

Spidey

Thanks for asking Spidey

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My Wife and I have come a long way since D-Day. We have a great deal to go yet of course but we are at least on the same page working toward that goal. My Wife fully understands the ramifications of restarting with OM as does he. Beyond that there is little I can do to stop them if they wish to restart. My main objective is to rebuild myself, rebuild our marriage, and in doing so supporting her's and our emotional needs. If that is not good enough for my Wife then there is little to be revived.

SM

I am so glad for you. We hada set back yesterday -WH used the computer and then deleted the history - when I asked why -he said he was looking at porn. (?) I hope he was not lying and pray he was telling me the truth. He has been very attentive and treating very good. Yet his actions sometimes do not fit.What spy ware do you suggest -maybe if I know the truth I can get past this and believe in him. I am afraid he was still e-mailing OW.

realtor, is it ok that he looks at porn? And if it is ok, then why would he delete the history? That makes no sense.

The keylogger I like is ActMon, but it's important that you buy the activation code or it will stay in trial mode. Trial mode will show a banner when the computer is restarted. You can get it at http://www.actmon.com/

Realtor

There are two that I have installed on customers machines upon their request. The best by far is from Spector Pro but is rather pricey.
Spector Pro http://www.spectorsoft.com/products/SpectorPro_Windows/index.html

And the less pricey but adequate is KeyLog Pro http://www.tucows.com/preview/355061.html

I am not familiar with ActMon as ML said she used.
But whatever works to satisfy your need for uncovering.

SM

Melody - I did get upset with him once for hiding his porn useage because he was hiding it. If he was honest and open I would not have minded. I just wish he would share this with me. I do not want to look but just like toknow. The honesty thing again. Hiding is being dishonest and this is what has me worried. I do not like this spying and it really goes against what I want but if this is what it takes then so be it. Thanks everyone for the support. This is a hard job finding the trust and committment again. Sssshhh - I am weary. I will download this tomorrow. No right now -I have to go out in a little while and I know he will be back on this thing when I leave. Thanks. Later.

Ok downloaded keylog and it says to see it's log book to hit shift+F12 and it is not coming up. I rebooted and did what they said. What am I missing here??

Realtor: It may have meant the "Windows" key + F12. They have to be pressed simultaneously and then the program should come up in your system tray. If you have it password protected, you'll have to enter that to bring up the log. Also, I've noticed some programs, like ad-aware will bring these type of programs (keyloggers) out of hiding, but then you still need the password to read the logs. Good luck.