It is very confusing I know. Thanks for answering my post. No, we didn't go to MC as he would not and when I was on ADs and the doctor suggested IC, I was not thinking straight and did not go either. I just lurked here and did the best I could. The answer to the other question is: I was married before for 18 years. My then husband cheated and we separated and filed for divorce. I committed adultery as I had a relationship before I remarried and that is why I am disfellowshipped. This happened 20 years ago. I have been with my partner now for 17 plus years but since we are not married, I am still not spoken to. My family was disfellowshipped over the years for various reasons and in the last 2-3 years have been reinstated and since that time they have stopped speaking to me. The problem is one of my sisters was also my best friend and it really hurts that she has nothing to do with me. If my partner and I go to her house to visit her husband, she leaves the house until I'm gone. This isn't really the forum to discuss this, I just had a momentary loss of discretion. I am just so lonely sometimes and it has been such a difficult year with no one to talk to. I do not wish to cause disharmony on the forum so in the future, I will only discuss my relationship problems with those who care to answer. Once again, thanks for your caring.

Hey Yokohamarose - I don't know what religion you belong to, but the Bible is very clear about bringing a brother or sister "back into the fold" when they repent of their sin... I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this...

The best advice that I can pass on to you if you want to work on your relationship with your partner, is to find a good pro-marriage MC and start going... Until you both deal with the issues, then you'll never fully recover...

Semper Fi,
RIF

Yokohama Rose,

I just saw your post this morning. I did some research on your previous posts and responded on your other thread, please let me know if I can help.

RIF is correct about helping an 'erring one'. How that help is given is just as important. Similar to gettng good medicine and implementing the correct dosage. If we are of the same religion, there are avenues and tools one can use to help them. It may seem the errored one is left alone but in reality they are not. You can e-mail me if you want. I will share what I can and provide direction you may need. Just like even MB principals here, the rest w/b up to you though, ok?

take care,
L.

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