Hello all,
It has been a while since I posted.
For those who know my story things have not changed much i have done a somewhat poor job with PLan B, but as the time goes on i find myself losing interest in my WW affair and all that surrounds it. For those who don't know my story, Briefly my wife met OM on line in 01/04 DD was 07/04 reconciliation attempted at this point until 09/04 when WW broke contact. Separation bagan 10/25/04. WW rec'd legal separation papers 02/05 has not signed them yet.
OM deploys for 6mo. cruise (he is in the Navy)on March 25,05. Om has been living with WW everyother week that she does not have my kids. WEeks she has my kids he is on the boat.
I have expose to everyone friends family coworkers. I have attempted to call JAG ofc. they would not intervene it is a personal matter.
Spoke with OM wife whom he is as far as i know just separated legally. Received ph# for OM ship and was suggest by OM wife that if i wanted to report him didn't know how well it would due to call that number and ask for the ofc. captain of the ship. OM is a senior chief....mostly untouchable.
At this point WW states her feelings have not changed since she moved out she is still in love with OM and plans on waiting out his six mo. deployment. OM complete opposite of me. SErial cheater, alcoholic,verbal abuser, busted on 2 dui's in past. WW states he might have been like that but is not now. OM wife is just bitter according to my WW.
Question is at this point would one last attempt at exposure to OM ships senior ofc. do any good.
Would this further drive them closer together if anything would happen at all.
Don't understand why OM wife if has given this info. and wants me to expose when she can herself. Although OM wife has had it with him after 18 years of marriage she has thrown in the towel, but has not filed for divorce yet. Confusing.
If this would anger WW and basically place the final nail in the reconciliation coffin. At this point i don't know if it would really bother me. I have moved a little forward with myself have gone out with friends and a had just a few dates but nothing serious.
I still do love my WW but throughout this i have been guilty of the relationship talk, buying her gifts for holidays,and the ILY, with hugging. I have set myself up for my own misery once OM is back from his sea trial i am again treated like yesterdays garbage. All this has made me lose some of that love for her.
As the weeks go by i am gradually learning to detach the best i can. So i don't know how much good at this point exposure would due. WW i dont' see is ready or will ever be ready to come back to me. I did commit before we separated that i would not expose to his command...big mistake should have done it then. So now i ask is it worth it now that all that has taken place?
Adivse from anyone who knows my story.
Thanks,
Jets