My WH had an A when his XW was pregnant.

When I was pregnant he started his current A.

OW (not pregnant to my knowledge) swears that he did that to me because I allowed him by not kicking him out when I found out about the A.

That she does not put up with that. I told her that she has proven to him that she would put up with it also.

She said she has not proven that to him because they have not been living together or dating for him to know she will allow that. Hmmnm!

I did not bother answering to her that the fact is that she IS with a man that has a woman in his life already and she is ok having "a relationship" with him. Why does it have to matter if they are dating or living together for it not to be ok for him to have two at the same time? She does not see that a relationship is a relationship and in his eyes she is with him in some sort of way and she it is ok with the fact that he is married and still is with her.

Do I make sense in the way I put that down?! I do not know how to explain it clearly.

Oh well, Venting I guess. If they end up together, hope it happens to her too. Grrrrr!
Love

why would you marry a man that cheated on his wife?

ark

Both of my husband's infidelities...were when I was pregnant. I think that isn't a coincidence. Madonna/Whore complex?????

Ark-
I do not know the answer to that. I did not know better at the time.

Plus I was not sure how much she had to do with it since she had an A too while married to him. She even got pregnant, while still married to him, from her OM (her second child). My husband got custody of his son with her. That is how bad her situation was.

So years later, when we were both available, we started a romantic relationship.

Can not say I am sorry I married the love of my life. Still working on making it work. That's life.

<small>[ February 23, 2005, 12:27 PM: Message edited by: love of a lifetime ]</small>

Starfish-
I think the feeling of a new resposibility make them do stupid things. Like trying to escape the reality of life is going to make it easier. Obviously they got into more trouble that what they probably thought had to start with.
Not an excuse though.

My idea with the original post was about how OW thinks it wont happen to her. Not that it will happen when she gets pregnant, but the fact that it will happen too. Of course, by now she knows the pattern of when it could happen to her. I love Dr Phil's say on how the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. I wish I had understood that before.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ark^^:
<strong> why would you marry a man that cheated on his wife?

ark </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Better question:

Why would you stay married to a S that has cheated on you?

Love maybe?

deleted double post-sorry

<small>[ February 23, 2005, 12:48 PM: Message edited by: love of a lifetime ]</small>

Why would you stay married to a S that has cheated on you?

Love maybe?


I don't know sadman...it has become my opinion

love is not the answer

and love is not enough......

so my answer to your question would not be love...

ark

MY question is.....why are you talking to the OW?

I hope that you aren't trying to get her to "see the light".....that's not gonna happen.

She ain't gonna "get it" until it happens to her....but of course....that's never gonna happen. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I think that you are wasting your time worrying about the OW.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">
MY question is.....why are you talking to the OW?I hope that you aren't trying to get her to "see the light".....that's not gonna happen.
She ain't gonna "get it" until it happens to her....but of course....that's never gonna happen. I think that you are wasting your time worrying about the OW </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Miss Priss

I WAS wasting my time talking to OW when we found out WH was lying on both sides trying to reconcile with both of us. It is just something that stuck to the back of my head and I just thought about it again. Contact with her stopped already. I tried plan B my WH a couple of times and failed to keep NC with him so he sweet talked me into trying this or trying that. At this point I am in limbo. Want to do stuff for myself and rebuild my life. Found a parttime job and started a couple of weeks ago. Looking for daycare so I can find a full time job. I am sure keeping myself busy and doing something good for me will give me the strenght to plan B again and not fail this time.