How I wish my WH's OW would send me her email. LOL!
Just be careful....watch out what you put in writing.

Naaaaaaa.

But post her address here and let us mail her. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Does he know that you know about his EA and his conversations? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ML, he says he is not having any type of affair but then again you cannot educate someone who is in the fog. I told him I knew about his conversations. I told him is is not appropriate for him to talk to the OW about the problems in our M especially if you have not discussed them with me. However, he insists that we've discussed them.

Hey...I could psot my WH's email and everybody could email him...hehehehehe!!!!!!

Haha TreeReich and worthatry... I was wondering how she got my email but I think I know. I don't think its from my WH but my MIL emailed both my WH and I one of those emails they want you to forward to other people (the email was about what type of tree you are depending on your birthday), my WH then responsed and forwarded the email to the OW.

Coincidently my MIL emailed that to us yesterday and the OW decided to email me last night. Maybe its not coincidence?!?!

Does she really know she e-mailsd you or did she send out a general e-mail to the group that your MIL e-mailed?

Did your MIL get an e-mail also? If so what did her's say?

I would check 1st. WS/OP games are not fun.

L.

Orchid, the email was just to me. She knew she was emailing me because it was addressed to me. I checked my WH's email account and noticed that email was first addressed to everyone my WH and I knew but then the same email was forwarded to only the OW.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by much mahal:
<strong> [QUOTE] I told him is is not appropriate for him to talk to the OW about the problems in our M especially if you have not discussed them with me. However, he insists that we've discussed them. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">MM, can you bring me up to speed? I agree with you that its inapppropriate for him to talk about your marital problems to anyone under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, but what has happened that leads you to believe this is an affair? Does he know your feelings and understand your misgivings?

Is OW Married?

Drucilla, the OW is not married.

ML, my WH is having an EA. I didn't realize this until this past xmas but they have been talking since Aug. I checked his cell phone records and emails. When I confronted my WH about this he told me to get over it, they are just friends. From then, they would only talk and email each other when he is at work. Since I wasn't able to find out more I stopped looking at his records. Well during xmas she called 3 times in one day and I began to think there was more. I posted my situation and everyone said they were having an EA.

I recorded one of his conversations with her after having a discussion with him. He was putting me down, saying things that he never talked to me about and just talking about me in general. My WH was home for 2 weeks taking care of our DD. I check his cell phone records then... they talked everyday and for a couple of hrs a day. He would call and she would call.
He would text msg saying he's having a bad day and to call when she's awake.

The OW is my H's xGF from before/when we were dating. I say "when" because she showed 6 months after they dated, while my WH and I were dating and they got back together. She let him go a week later and didn't talk to my WH until after we got married.

Does that help?

So should I email her?

Here's what I'll say...

OW, Why are you emailing me... does my WH know you emailed me?

Would this be ok or should I leave it alone.

Why won't he end contact with her? Have you asked him? What does he say?

Nope, that's too desperate sounding.

I'd go with Mls "what can I help you with". Put yourself in the position of power.

Noodle

PS..Remember..this is supposed to be a fishing expedition..not a confrontation.

<small>[ February 24, 2005, 03:56 PM: Message edited by: noodle ]</small>

ML, to him they are "Just Friends" He doesn't think there is a need to end contact although he admits he still has feelings for her. He wants to end his R with me instead. He she has issues of her own that I'm not privy to, so here's there to listen.

Noodle, I does sound like I am confronting her. But her email stated "If you want to talk feel free to email me"

Will I get what I'm looking for when i say "what can I help you with?"

Perhaps, "What would you like to talk about?"

What do you think, Mel?

The thing is..be aloof..you want info..not to ask/beg her to go away.

Don't tell her anyhting personal..don't open yourself up..don't be vulnerable.

She is an enemy..treat her as such.

Imagine you are a detective.

Noodle

Commicating with her constitutes enabling the A (aka: friendship). One that your H is willing to throw away his M for.

Think about it. Then you will see the futility in the call.

She is a woman, an alienlike creature parading in a human (probably once sane) body. Her need to steal your identity is crucial to her existance.

Communicating with her on any level (even if it is to satisfy your couriosity is feeding her creature (aka: A).

Sound icky? It is. Stay away from any contact before you get sucked into that web that is destroying your R.

JMHO,
L.

"What can I do for you?"

Ahhh.... reply or not to reply. I can see why I shouldn't reply because I can get caught up with the WS/OP games. However, my reason to email would be, as Noodle mentioned, for investigative purposes. I barely have proof of an EA. Telling my WH to end contact with someone he is friends with will not work. Couldn't this be an execption to the do not contact OP rule?!

Noodle & MelodyLane, I've had several responses saying I shouldn't respond... what do you think?

MM,

Personally, I would not respond.

However, if you MUST..then respond after much thought and insight from those removed.

I think it is *possible* to get a feel for how deep she is in this...but it won't be something she reveals intentionally.

It's risky. You might get sucked in. She's dangling a hook little fish..will you bite?

Noodle

[edited to add..There are just three little words I want to hear from her anyway..can you guess what they are?]

<small>[ February 24, 2005, 09:28 PM: Message edited by: noodle ]</small>