I need a little help or advice. I need to know that I am doing the right thing. This is my second posting. It’s tough for me to understand that I am doing the right thing. My patience isn’t the greatest.

For a quick recap, I found out about the affair from the WW on 14 Jan. The OM is a coworker of hers who happens to be married with 3 children of his own. The A continued for about another 3 weeks or at least the physical part. The emotional part is still going on. They call each other nightly. The WW has moved into her own apartment. The OM lives in his own apartment also. The OW is at her home with her 3 kids. We have one son also. I keep in contact with the OW just to keep up to date on what is going on. Neither the WW nor the OM can figure out what they want to do. They seem to go back and forth.

I’ve read “Surviving an Affair” and Plan A/B. Unfortunately, we do not have anyone as a go between. I do have to talk to her on a daily basis because of our son. I’m keeping it to a minimal and doing things I need to do to improve my life like counseling, Bally’s membership, etc. I also think I can get that new 2005 mustang convertible that I want in about 2 months. Up to this point she was the one that always drove the new car. Now it’s my turn.

Right now it seems that my WW would go off with him if he chose to do so. However, it seems that he can’t figure out what he wants. Cake and eating it to. The WW did tell her dad that she had considered coming back to me however she isn’t sure either. She moved out last Saturday. I tried Plan A and there was no luck there except that the physical part of the affair ended. But that was about it.

I guess the questions I have are as follows:

Do I need to keep my interaction with WW to a minimal? Should I just go “Dark” on her?

How should I act around her when she is around?

I’ve been offered a job in the Middle East that could net me $150000 for one year. Should I take it and leave her for that year?

What other advice can you give me to get through this part?

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