im so ticked right now. i just got an e-mail from oms w. she told me that he told her that he had talked to w 2 times since d day2. 1 time to tell her it was over that he loved w yada yada yada! and the next time when i called her to tell her my atty was going to call and get a statement from her. also told her a bunch of cr@p my w told him that is lies. mr and w have been getting along pretty good for a couple weeks. but right now i dont feel like ever talking to her again. WTF do i do

You don't feel like talking to OM's wife?

Then don't.

Pep

dalson, can you bring me up to speed? Are you in contact with your W? What is the disposition of her affair, etc?

no i dont feel like talking to my w

deleted - I do not think I'm current enough on your sitch to comment

WAT

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mel
ww and om were caught by oms w in waco in a motel 2gether back in january, i was on phone w oms w when she busted them. but he is all remorsful my ww was p!ssed at me because i was in on the bust and how dare i ruin it for her and her soulmate. anyway as near as we (me and oms w) the a is over, and i filed for a d we go to mediation on march 8. anyway my ww thinks im out to crucify her in court, which i am not but i am not backing down on the custody issue, period! we have had dinner a couple times and she crys , but says no way to reconcile, that it will be back like it was in 2 mos, i have read 5 languages of love and figured what i have donee wrong for 12 years. i always thought that i was the perfect h, i sent roses just because, bought the perfect gifts, lots of ILYs, compliments BUT no quality time.

What do you mean by "no quality time?" Is that real or is it a WS BS manufactured greivance? Do you not want to try to make it work?

See, i don't think this is hopeless at all and I am concerned about you moving so quickly to divorce. Divorce is permanent, resentment is NOT.

Dalson,
Forgive me for a moment but may I respectfully ask you to please re-read your post and please Guy, get real! So you weren’t the perfect husband, OK, to many presents and to little time together! Boy Dalsom, you’re obviously a real desperado! LOL

But seriously bro, your post is approaching the level of surreal! The OM’s wife, while on the telephone with you, (one must assume she was doing the “play by play” as she went into action) catches her husband and your wife together (in a state one can only imagine) in a WACO motel room (got to hand it to the little soul mates. They go first class all the way!) and your wife is pissed at you because why?! You ruined her good time!? LOL And you’re doing mia copas over this incident and the break up of your marriage because now you’ve suddenly had this ephiphany? You’ve read “The Five Languages Of Love,” and you’ve at last figured it all out?

~ “ (I) figured what i have donee wrong for 12 years. i always thought that i was the perfect h, i sent roses just because, bought the perfect gifts, lots of ILYs, compliments BUT no quality time.”~

Dalson good buddy, all I can say to all this is “Remember the Alamo!” And I don’t know what that has to do with anything either but what the hell. None of this makes any sense anyway. Do you think that maybe this whole thing simply boils down to a case of a pretty good guy (‘cause Dalson, you sound like a pretty good guy to me) who is less then perfect, being married to a wife that is WAY less then perfect? Think about it.

Coach

PS. Maybe you should just let your lawyer handle this do you think?

dalson, why do you think you need to do *anything* at all? Why are you angry? Because WW is saying untrue things? This is news?

Also, I agree with Coach -- you sound like a pretty decent guy; I doubt if you need to defend yourself in a town the size of the one you live in. I imagine everyone knows you're a good guy.

Let it go.
PM

yall are probably right i just need to cut off al contact and quit letting her get into my head.
i think what hurts most is that om called her and told her it was over and she appolgized to him and cryed for all the pain that the a caused him and his family. she has yet to appolgize to me or my kids for what it caused us. i dont know maybe im just being stupid

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dalson:
i dont know maybe im just being stupid </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Want my opinion?

Pep

hit me up side the head with it

I think you can say you're stupid ... but can't say how hurt you are.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> angry is a more comfortable emotion for you to express than 'desperately hurt'.

I think you love your wife deeply ... even now. And the hurt has no voice.

Pep

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