Hi, Thanks again for your insight. <P>I'm beginning to gain wieght from all the humble pie I've been eating. He He.<P>Dancing in the Dark "The shawdow side of imtimate relationships"<BR>by Douglas& Naomi Moseley<P>If you get a chance read this book, it's really good.<P>Carol<P><BR>

Thank you, I'll try to check it out. Amazon just sent me a little note saying they missed me.<P>Right now I think I could set up my own bookstore, but everything I have read has given me insight.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

CarolG,<BR>I'll add it to my list, which is far too long for a mom with little ones!<P>Can I ask those questions now? You're generous to talk to me at all after my tirade... There is so much I wish I could convey and this computer just doesn't seem adequate to the task... I do feel for your situation, though it boggles the mind.<P>What I am wondering about it the relationship between MM and your(his) children? Child support? visitation? etc. Does your H have a relationship with them also or no? <P>The OW in our case got very angry that H has not come to see the child, but we now live literally on the other side of the world. H told her he wants the child to be able to contact him and have whatever relationship she(the kid) wants when she can decide for herself, but we will always be long distance and we can only afford just so much plane fare. I think about this WAaaaaaay too much. I try to understand this OW because I try to anticipate what is going to happen next. It seems to be a lost cause and probably the only reason I keep trying is because I'm a control freak (or, have control issues, if you will ), and maybe it is the pain of her betrayal without so much as an apology.<P>Best wishes,<BR>Jenny

bringing this to the top and saying I'm wondering how others handle this o-child situation. Not often we hear from the other side... and I'm going to go off the board soon.

Am going off the board now. I can be emailed zollars@hotmail.com