Every morning for the last two weeks I've had this nagging feeling at exactly 8 am and it lasts all day.......I cannot put my finger on it, and I thought I conquered it yesterday, but it's back this morning.<P>Yesterday, I set a timetable to this process, I decided on boundaries I guess, and the feeling went away, I was peaceful the rest of the day (happy actually, the fog lifted)<P>So it's back, and I've tried to review my plan, hoping for a positive result like yesterday, but nope!<P>Now I get these nagging feelings from time to time (always have this isn't a post discovery kind of thing) Usually, I can determine not why, but who the nagging feeling is about, by thinking of everyone, one at a time, until the feeling gets most intense (don't laugh!!!). This feeling gets most intense when I think of my H. But now the why is driving me up the wall.....I thought it was because we have kinda of stalled in our rebuilding process and the plan (actually decided when to move to plan b). But why is it back?????<P>Anyone else, go on instinctive feelings, intuition or what ever? Any ideas on this????

Hi OnceHappy<P>Try as hard as possible to get a more realistic picture of your life. This thinking could turn into a compulsive disorder and consume your life. Look at yourself and work on your feelings and come to believe that you are the most important person on earth. By thinking positive thoughts about what you are doing on this earth then your attitude will change for the better. You are fighting a battle and you need to stay strong, remember this is not a life or death match, the prize for winning is not worth dying for.<P>Stay strong, stand tall and have respect for yourself so that your life will be great.<P>Good Luck<BR>_____________________________________________<BR>"Better to die on your feet than live on your knees"

hi oh, this sounds very frustrating to me. I have not been good about listening to my gut, hence part of the reason that my h was able to continue his affairs so long. I am a more practical rational thinker, but trying to learn to listen to my intuition!<BR>It does sound a bit obsessive that you cannot get away from it once it starts. Why 8am? Did something happen at this time that is kicking in? Maybe you need to process this some to see if this is stress related obsessiveness or if there is a valid reason for this. <BR>If there is no reason for it, then would have to agree with toronto-you need to push yourself back into reality, look at the big picture. The timetable is a good idea to make you refocus but you may need to add some different postive thoughts?

Hi Once Happy,<P> Do you exercise? I have found that for me that will break those thoughts that go round and round , brings me down and keeps me in that depressive "fog"(that's what it feels like to me). I think it does something to the brain chemicals and diverts my thinking to other thoughts.....I can be feeling so low and then 20min into exercise the thoughts start to change and become more objective and hopeful....does that make sense?....Lu<BR>

Once ,<BR>I had three days of the week, Monday 2:30--- Thursday 9:30--- Friday (gosh, I can't remember what time that was, I'm starting to forget things, this is good!) Your mind logs things, and you don't even have to be thinking and there it is, you feel, you think and you realize what is going on. After a while, a long while, you will replace these times and feelings with other things, or they will just fade away. It is sooooo sad and sooooo unbelievable to be going through this. You didn't ask for it, but you have to deal with it. Try replacing your thoughts with good ones of the present, when it happens, get a new idea, think of this new idea every time. Maybe sing Twinkle Twinkle Little Star, Laugh and go on. Don't make fun of me, I haven't lost it, it helped me. Don't get stuck on the bad thoughts. I never thought I would get here where I am today, but, I DID. It also helps to talk to your H about the present, how you are feeling, with out bringing up details of the past, I tell my H I need a hug, he knows what I mean, that I am going through a bad moment, I even call him on the phone and tell him that I need a hug. It kinda keeps him on his toes that I need some attention, he is soooo willing to give it. Don't worry that you are doing something wrong, there is no wrong or right at this point, you are going through the prossess. There will be another one and another one. Step by step you will get there. Relax, know that he is with you! Give him the chance you said you would. <BR>Almost <P>---------<BR>TIME

Thank you all. Yes, it's bordering on obsessive. I try to push the feeling away. I excerise, I run. I throw myself into my work. I sing in my head, song my dad used to sing to me when I was a kid. All seem to help. I'm looking forward to forgetting to get these feelings!

O ,<BR>I just called my H and said I needed a Hug, he gave me a B I G one, said, "how's that? Pretty good, huh?" then he started asking me about going to the Drs. today with our Daughter to hear the baby's Heart Beat. He got me off on a good thing. Never did ask me what was wrong or what I was thinking about. I got through another Moment!!!!!!!<BR>A <P>----------<BR>TIME