I started a similar thread to this a week or so ago. My wife and I are 2 weeks or so from finishing up the settlement for our divorce. (She ended an affair in July, but has not been open to reconciliation at all.) I have several people earnestly praying who are convinced that God is going to intervene and save this marriage, but there is no evidence to support that beyond their own faith and hope. Are there any success stories out there, where marriages were saved in the last 5 minutes of the last hour, or even after the divorce was final? I'd love to hear some.<P>I started a similar thread a week or so ago, and it got totally off the original topic, so thought I'd try again. Thanks!

doc - Sorry. I was one of the ones who misunderstood what you meant by "post-divorce success stories"! I thought you meant stories about divorces that had been successful in terms of how the divoced people had managed to cope afterwards and take their lives back. Sorry about that. So no, but you know? I WAS hoping (I have to say) that my 1st W would do SOMETHING to stop the process. And I think SHE was hoping I would. But the relationship was too far gone. She would have had to admit her cheating, apologize for it, say she was sorry for how much she hurt me and initiate the reconciliation. And she just wasn't willing to do that. I was not the one at fault, and so was adamant that I wasn't going to the one to make the initial overtures towards reconciliation. So, sorry, it doesn't look hopeful for you, I hate to say. But there is life after divorce. Take a break from relationships!<P>Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex

Any success stories out there???<P>Wex<BR>What do you think your 1st W was hoping you would do?

I think she was hoping that I'd beg her to reconsider, that I'd grovel and apologize the way I'd often done in the past, and I just wasn't going to do that any more. And I'm glad I didn't. I hope you do find some success stories. I know there are some on this forum. You might try searching back through older threads.<P>--Wex

I'm not sure about success yet. Went through divorce process, and H asked me to dismiss on morning of final judgement. Affair going on for a little more than a year at that time. We dismissed, he moved back in. It didn't work, and he moved back out and started seeing OW almost immediately. Going through divorce process again. Affair finally fizzling out after almost 2 years. H seems to have his head on straight again. Sees things much more clearly. H has not ended affair. H seems to want reconciliation. we'll see.

SLCDetroit<P>Wow, what a rollercoaster! I just heard a success story that was probably a decade in the making (i.e., separated for 10 years, then repentance on the part of the wife, and now back together; a real prodigal son story).<P>I hope yours is quicker and surer than that. I'll look for your posts.

I was talking to my therapist about the likelihood of people filing for divorce and not going through with it. She said most go through with it. BUT -- she knows of several cases where they got remarried later! It seems like the divorce was necessary for each to get whatever personal growth was needed. And once the divorce is over, they can stop fighting about the divorce.