Hi. This is my first post ever on a bulletin board. My husband of almost 4 yrs is an only child. 2 yrs ago his father died. We live in the apt above his mother. His mother is his WORLD! She comes before anyone and anything. If I try to be first in his life he says I am jealous of his mom. He probably talks to her more during the day then to me. Her needs are first and anything that needs to be done in her house gets done before anything in ours. Yesterday I was at the beginning stages of a cold, you know when you feel absolutely miserable? I went home and slept for 3 hrs. He called and asked how I was, said I sounded worse than earlier but reminded me to take some soup down to his mom. That she was expecting it. It also happened to be snowing at the time. It was more important that she have her soup than I get rest and to feel better. We haven't spoken since yesterday afternoon. I am at my wits end. We always argue over her and I can't get him to understand that WE need to come first or there won't be a WE anymore. Any suggestions or help?