So, WH has left again to be with OW. The first time was 4 months after affair and it lasted a total of two weeks. He came home, said he wanted to try again. Well, OW was 10 hours away, but it never stopped. There was phone conversations 3-4 times a day. Also, she came to visit and saw him. He left a week ago. He has left one message on voice mail to me. Just saying I am checking on you. I called him back two days later and told him, to not call me back. He is in an affair, and I can not be a part of his lies anymore.

A lot of people in town know us and now know it happened again. They think I am so CRAZY to ever take him back if he wanted. I am also thinking that. He lied to me everday for nearly a year. He has put no effort in to the marriage and was here on valentines day and did not even give me a lousy card.

When do you know enough is enough? I still love him but the trust may never return. He even lied about going to stay down there, he said was going to stay with his mom, and never even went there. How do you take him back and not look ridiculous once again... He may not even come back, I guess just wishful thinking. i have not called him back after telling him that he is not to talk to me. I can not do it anymore. He still has bills coming to the house. i guess I will send those to his parents. I hope his mom does not pay them, it will be like she is supporting his affair, which she totally does not.

Please consider implementing Plan B. Here's a link to Plan B letters for you to send to your WH. We can even help you critique any Plan B letter you write to your WH to eliminate any LB [love busters].

TMCM

I have been trying for 9 months and am exhausted. I still don't know if I have had enough. I just don't know. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Oh, I am all about the PLAN B. I have decided on that. I just do not know where to send it as he has not given an address. I know what town, but she just moved there 5 months ago and there is no address listed. She is an apartment and who knows if she would even give it to him. I guess I could send it to his mom, but she does not have an address either. So, that is why I verbally told him. I guess I will wait until another phone message. He only calls when he knows I am not home. What a coward. If you can not even tell people where you are, you must know it is wrong.

If you trust your MIL, then consider giving the Plan B letter to her and the next time he calls let him know that you left a letter for him over at his mom's and immediately end the call.

TMCM

Do you have her phone number ? on caller id. You can reverse search her number on www.anywho.com or www.whitepages.com.

TMCM- I trust my MIL all the way. SHe is so upset that he lied the night he left and said he was going to her house. Never showed. Ended up 4 states away at OW"S... He called both of us the same day, 5 days later. Left me a very short message.. Talked to her for about 30 seconds...said he was ok, and was in other state for now..That is all. I will send it to her. Not sure if he will even give her the address..

I have her home number and her cell number. There is no street listing though, just town, which I know. I know where she works to. I just have never spoken to her during all of this or emailed or anything. Even when she lived with us, before the A was out in the public. I will not give her the satisfaction. She is the type that would thrive off of hearing from me.

She may hear from me, but in may be in the form of alientation of affection papers. We still do that in my state..