thanks nikko for thinking of me. I am trying to change...to not let others, mainly my H, to disrespect me. I have changed somewhat, but I feel I'm slipping back to the pathetic person I was.
I've changed from a sales position,commission only. to a full time guarenteed salary person, I try and take care of me first. I joined a gym & my son & I go together now. Very cool.
I have to take ownership of my triggers. Even if he does disrespect me....it's my responses that will kill me. It's the fast heartbeats the unbeleivable pain the loss that will kill me. I need to take ownership of that. Why should this bother me so much. His body, his mind, his actions. I may have put too much faith in him. too much of me depended on him. too much, too much.
We have wonderful times. Sneak home on lunch to be together....like excited lovers. Go away to a fun place and not even leave the room...like honeymooners.
I just read noodle's post and all the replys....boy you could just insert me there.
My H just dosen't understand, he'll just say, as if words are enough "you have nothing to worry about" I'll never do that again. Let's not focus on the past let's move on"
I asked if he'll seek MC with me but he won't. Dosen't want to relive that past. be productive, be positive.
He straight faced asked me "Why couldn't I just say "well H, go on this trip and relax, have fun, you deserve it after the rough year you had" Did he forget that we had a rough year because of the last golf trip he went on?" Apparently he did.
till later bye.
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