Hi there, it's been a while. How long did you stay away and did you cope (mentally) with the separation? I've seen you lurking a bit here lately but you seem like you're back in full swing now. Hope everything is ok. Things with me pretty much the same. Most days are busy and I just get on with things and cope with whatever the day has in store. Some days, the cloud of infidelity looms above me and I can't shake it off. I definitely lost a bit of sparkle over all of this but I'm determined to get it back.

WH's kidneys continue to decline. Specialist is talking about which method of dialysis to use and he's been given a strict diet to adhere to. He was talking not long ago about 'jacking it all in'. Not a thought for his daughter's education. It's all about him, naturally. Still, I'm not the one with imminent kidney failure so I'm sure he feels pretty lousy a lot of the time. I'd have had more sympathy before the predator! Trouble is, I do feel sorry for him.

Anyway Anyname, I'll come and meet you and the Italian guy for a dip soon. On my day off this week I'm going up to Shenzhen (got a visa that'll expire in a couple of weeks so might as well). Do drop a line if you can squeeze me in between your epic posts! TT