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Hello everybody,
I'm off to our first MC and I wanted to throw up an idea and see what you think.
The past year and a bit our relationship has been so convoluted and crazy, two affairs I know about, allot of Internet stuff and unbelievable dishonesty.
I am trying to figure out how we sit infront of the MC and try to explain the complexity of this. I thought I could put the details to paper and have the WS read it so that she is in agreement and bring it to the MC.
Any thoughts on this?
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The MC is there to help you and her talk to each other. The MC isn't there to solve your problems for you--he/she is there to help you and your WS solve the problems. The MC is not a judge.
One of the big problems in Ms that have an A is the lack of communication between BS and WS. SO, you and she need to learn to talk to each other about this stuff.
"Writing out" a description of the As seems to me to be self-defeating.
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I guess I realize thet but I just thought that if the MC new where we were coming from it may shed some light on our situation, but I agree we are going to work on communication and it is up to us to resolve it.
Thanks for your opinion
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Writing down your thoughts so you don't forget certain items is a good idea, but you can't write down your spouses thoughts. I tend to get very emotional in MC so I have a paper with some bullet points that I can refer to if needed.
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