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my H talked to this OW co -worker since july they got close and i guess the A started in Nov.when i found out at the end of Dec.it was over just like that. he said there was no love for her. i think there had to be feelings somewhat but when i found out and he realized what he done and it ended right there, and ever since then all hes says is how much he hates this OW.can i assume there really was'nt nothing there to begin with. maybe he liked her attention?he did see her more than me.
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If your H was investing his personal time, personal conversation and focus on OW--there was something.
The good news is its over. Now, have you discovered what he was getting there that you could have provided? Have you filled out and EN questionaire?
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If your H was investing his personal time, personal conversation and focus on OW--there was something.
The good news is its over. Now, have you discovered what he was getting there that you could have provided? Have you filled out an EN questionaire?
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oops <small>[ March 02, 2005, 12:20 PM: Message edited by: Freefromlies ]</small>
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freefromlies, thanks for the info.i do know what was now missing.the thing was even back then he was'nt home he workred full time with overtime and went to school full time. so he hardly seen eachothere.this other women had problems with her marriage and needed someone to talk to.she also was a very forward person and said things that you don't say when your M or to a M man. I know NO_EXCUSES. he is leaving his job he gets sick just walking in there.
Thanks LL
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At lese he is leaving his job -that shows you alot. Mine was involved with a woman at work for over 2 years and I am not sure if it is still going on. ?Good luck- get the books here they really help you.
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thanks, we do have SAA and HN/HN. I think us not seeing eachother all that much made things worse.i will not give him any excuses .who knows he siad around x-mas he thought more and realized what he was doing wrong that does'nt mean he would of stopped.i'm just glad i found out and made him realize what he could of lost.he says knowing what this has done to the both of us he'd rather die than cheat ever again.
thanks LL
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i think i asked this before but can a WS hurt more than a BS?my H says this was the biggest mistake he will ever make. he is having a hard time dealing with this.he said he had everything right in front of him and did'nt realize it until he could of lost it.
Thanks LL
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