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oops...sorry bout that.
My WS is reading te threads I write, is that bad?
I told her she could because there is nothing in them that I wouldn't tell her but does it undermine anything?

No, it's not bad.

elocm,

I had to respond because my WH reads mine too. I guess he is a FWH now, I think.
At first I didn't mind him reading the posts. Like you say, there is nothing there that I wouldn't want him to know or that wouldn't say to his face.

I am starting to feel though that it is making us talk LESS because he reads my feelings on here and we're not talking as much in person.

Since I like to talk things out, and he's reading here but not posting himself, not much in the way of words is coming from his side of it. Know what I mean?

SO DEAR H, IF YOU ARE READING THIS, COME TALK TO ME, OK? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ March 03, 2005, 03:28 PM: Message edited by: suzychapstick ]</small>

My FWW and I have a joint thread we share, and we have are vent threads we stay away from, it's the only place I will not invade on her, she needs it to vent and help her to stay a FWW and she does not read my thread because she knows it is harsh and my vent area for the past 8 months...

Good luck

Elocm, it may be bad.

It all depends how you are doing your Plan A, and how foggy your WW is.

You also should be wary of using this forum as a way to communicate to your wife rather than straight talking.

If you are in Plan A, then venting here is counter-productive if your WW is reading your vents.

Just be careful. My WW found out I visited here, and tracked down my posts. Finally got tired of changing my name and said the heck with it.

However, she never understood MB. She didn't like me posting on here. And she especially didn't like the support I received.

I think if you are starting a recovery, that it would be great if you both posted here. Or if she was reluctant to at least read the posts to together.

If she is still active in her adultury, then I dont think it will help her or you. Too much fog and defensiveness in her.

Good luck.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Tom Joad:
<strong> Elocm, it may be bad.

If she is still active in her adultury, then I dont think it will help her or you. Too much fog and defensiveness in her.

Good luck. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have to agree with Tom. I think that in the midst of an affair, anything and everything is construed as an attack on their "happiness" and an attempt to "control" them. I was told by WS that she did not wish to read any books I tried to give her, because it was an attempt to "control" her?!?!?!?! They definately look at everything you do as a potential conspiracy against their "soulmate"/"happiness"/"fill in the blank" mantra that they desparately cling to.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Tom Joad:
<strong> Elocm, it may be bad.

If she is still active in her adultury, then I dont think it will help her or you. Too much fog and defensiveness in her.

Good luck. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have to agree with Tom. I think that in the midst of an affair, anything and everything is construed as an attack on their "happiness" and an attempt to "control" them. I was told by WS that she did not wish to read any books I tried to give her, because it was an attempt to "control" her?!?!?!?! They definately look at everything you do as a potential conspiracy against their "soulmate"/"happiness"/"fill in the blank" mantra that they desparately cling to.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by elocm:
<strong> oops...sorry bout that.
My WS is reading te threads I write, is that bad?
I told her she could because there is nothing in them that I wouldn't tell her but does it undermine anything? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi, elocm.

Why not ask your wife to get her own account and post here.

You introduce her, and make sure that she feels safe here.

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