It's been months since d-day. I still don't trust a single word my WW says. I feel she is lying right to my face. Even if I know she is telling me the truth. i still feel she is lying to me.
She doesn't want to try to rebuild trust. She feels any question from me is personal attack. She expects me to take the first step by trusting her.

I can't do that. My marriage is going down the tubes over this issue. I can't get her to give an inch in this respect.

While I'm sure I've not been a peach to live with in the past, I've made huge steps to make our relationship better. I'm meeting her needs ( know I am as she has said so). But, I can't move past certian things. And she isn't willing help me move past these issues.

I'm left alone on all this. If I confront her she closes down to me emotionally for a weeks. I've gotta kiss her [censored] for a week to get her back to where she was before. And that is just if I try to address some of my issues. Issue related to her affair. Setting up a safe place for me to be in.

I am running short solutions. How can I approach these topics without her thinking I'm attacking her (which i don't do anyways).

Thanks

Have you already tried Individual counseling fro both of you and marriage counseling together? Have you tried going to a Church together that focuses on forgivness and God's grace?