Many of you know but for those that don't:
H left me for OW when I was six months pregnant with first child
Had an EA
OW left her H and six year old son
My D final in October
Just as I was healing enjoying my six month old son and dating I get this news. My Ex-husband and OW are expecting a baby girl. She got pregnant the month I delivered my son. I found out from a friend just recently and the baby is due in May.
The coward didn't even tell me.
I am trying to focus on my life and not think about the idiots. It is hard considering my son and this child will be nine months apart could even be in the same grade at the same school. It never ends. I wish he would stop hurting me. I haven't said anything to him about it.

Hi Durham,

I remember you. I am sorry. I keep thinking; why should you care, but I know it would bother me too.

The coward didnt tell you... that doesnt surprise me. How someone THAT messed up can knowingly have ANOTHER child is just beyond me.

Wonder where he'll be in 6 months... taking bets he has a new soulmate by then?

Try not to think about it too much. He'll be ruining lives for the next 40 years... you cant keep up with it all.

Please take good care of yourself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> - Dru

<small>[ March 04, 2005, 01:03 PM: Message edited by: Drucilla ]</small>

I've been thinking about you lately and wondered how you were doing. I'm sorry your WH is still able to hurt you. What he has done is just horrible. He can't be a father to the one child he has, so he goes out and has another? He will have to be the one to explain to his son why this is. One day he will get his, I truely believe this. Just keep being the best person and best mother you can be.

How are YOU doing?

Hey Durham, I remember you too.

What *I* can't understand is how OW could be crazy enough to let him get her pregnant! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I know it must hurt. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
Does it help at all to try and turn the hurt into relief that his incredibly poor choices are no longer direclty a part of your life?

Hi Durham,

I remember your story and I'm so so sorry that your ex-husband continues to hurt you. But you are doing well and you just keep taking care of you and your baby.

I have a feeling that OW was probably jealous of you having a child with him and got pregnant on purpose because she wants to compete with you in her own crazy and selfish whacked mind.

It won't be very long before your ex is going to get tired of this and he's probably going to find himself another OW who is going to make him "feel" good once again and then he'll have two children to take care of. Good thing is that you got rid of him, you have first dips on child support and she can get whatever is left.

I'm really really sorry for you, but don't worry about those two fools. They will get theirs in the end. You take care of you and that beautiful baby and someday you will meet someone who is worthy of what you have to offer.

Hugs
Kati

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by durham76:
<strong> Many of you know but for those that don't:
H left me for OW when I was six months pregnant with first child
Had an EA
OW left her H and six year old son
My D final in October
Just as I was healing enjoying my six month old son and dating I get this news. My Ex-husband and OW are expecting a baby girl. She got pregnant the month I delivered my son. I found out from a friend just recently and the baby is due in May.
The coward didn't even tell me.
I am trying to focus on my life and not think about the idiots. It is hard considering my son and this child will be nine months apart could even be in the same grade at the same school. It never ends. I wish he would stop hurting me. I haven't said anything to him about it. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

I am sorry Durham.

Hope you are happy regardless!

Try not to let ANYTHING he does get to you. Expect that he is going to hurt you for a long time and maybe it will stop hurting if you expect it. I don't know, I sure hate to see this happen to a new mom though. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I am doing really well and am happy. I am dating a great guy who tells me how wonderful I am every day. Most days I don't think about my ex. Mostly I am embarassed that I even was married to this man. I was with him for 12 years and never dreamed he would be capable of this.
I wish I could be done with him for good. The hard part is that I have to deal with him for a long time. I am getting tired of him getting the best of me. I am just going to focus on keeping my head up high because he surely can't hold his up.

Good for you dating a great guy. It is hard because you and your ex share a child together and therefore you will forever be in touch with this man. Do not ever feel ashamed of anything of the past, especially being married to him. You did nothing wrong. He is the one who cheated and betrayed you and your baby son. And he's going to continue that road for many many years.

Be glad that you are no longer part of this chaos. Your son is better off with you as his Mom and hopefully a nice caring Stepdad someday. Your ex will never be the kind of dad that you son will need and deserve.

It is irresponsible for him to keep having children with other women when he can't even take care of his first child. He's going to need to hit rock bottom before there is any chance of improvement for him.

Unfortunately, some people never hit rock bottom...

Kati

Hi Durham,

All I can say is EWWWW.Puke.

Well,I hope he is prepared to work his a** off now that he is fathering kids "all over town".Child support X 2,Alimony and bills everywhere.

I just hope you live far enough away that you don't "bump" into them.I for one am glad that my STBXWH is hours away and so is the homewrecking trash.

Stay Strong Durham.Let them wallow in all their selfish mistakes and responsibilities.It's just more of the same anyway right? Whatever. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />


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