How is it that you found this site? Did your BS show it to you? Were you resistant? My WH could really benefit from knowing he is not alone. He frequently posts on other hobby related forums but, I just can't see him coming here and I don't know how to approach it without coming across as "educating" him.

Hi lu2bd, I found this site when my A ended and I wanted to find out the way back to my M. I was googling "marriage" I think and not "infidelity". I read all the articles on the main site and it was just what I was looking for. It gave me hope that me and my H could get through this.

One paragraph in a letter from Dr H to a woman who had ended an A was the turning point for me. It said "If you are willing to permanently end your relationship with X, get through withdrawal and then you and your H follow the Four Rules to Guide Marital Recovery, I guarantee that you will have a great marriage. And I also guarantee you that neither of you will ever suffer through an affair again."

That was exactly what I was looking for (and it's turned out to be true BTW).

I didn't find the forum till a bit later, I lurked and read and everyone seemed so nice that I just posted one day. It never occurred to me that the thoughts of a FWW might not be appreciated but I was met with support and acceptance from day 1.

I've noticed that the FWS's who've found the site for themselves are very keen to recover - I don't know how it would work if they're "led" here - it depends mostly on their "attitude" how much they get out of MB.

Jen

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