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"In Love" = Sexual Desire?
#1318241 03/04/05 04:00 PM
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Hello Everyone!

My WH tells me that he loves me, but is not "in love" with me and that he doesn't think of me "that way". He has said that he is "in love" with the OW. BTW, the A has ended and they are NC.

So, what do you think? Does "in love" feelings equal sexual desire? If so, how do you recapture sexual desire for your spouse? How does a BS get for their WS to think of them "that way" again?

Thanks for your input!
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It certainly seems that way. But actually, it's just another one of those WS justification lines.
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Has your husband written a no contact letter? They all say the same thing, so don't worry about what he says - but watch what he does.
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How long has NC been established? This seems to be a common mantra..."I love you, but not it in love with you". I could've died when my FWH said this to me!!!

The longer the NC the quicker the "in love" feelings return.

I hope this helps!

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