Hi Folks,

I would like to get some feedback first before I take (any) action.

The issue is a cell phone call to my children,from their Father,from the homewrecker's cell phone whose number has been burned into my brain for all eternity. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Now,ordinarily,I don't care one iota what the two selfish, adultering destroyers are doing but I have a BIG problem with the blatant disrespect from my WH again.Of all the phones and ways to contact the children for his bedtime call,he uses the homewrecker's CELL phone after I had repeatedly told him that I do not want him to call my home phone from the crackpot homewreckers parents home,the homewreckers cell phone or anything that relates to those people.

I am a very private person in general(except here where you all know my marital business) and now I feel violated in the sense that now this trash has my home phone number that she can easily review on a bill.I truly believe he did this on purpose and it sounded like he was at some noisy restaurant having dinner to which my daughters inquired about.Beneficially,for his sake,he did not tell the girls what sleazy dinner companion he had.

Not only do I believe this was done on purpose,but he is well aware of what terrible trauma that particular cell phone and number has caused me in the early stages of his adultery and it appears to me to be yet another selfish,hurtful act upon his part that could have been avoided but for his deep seeded "need" to torment me anyway he thinks he can.Little does he know that it really does not bother me as much now but the issue of privacy and basic decency is what is at hand.I want to prevent this from happening again or else him risk no one being here at the other end of the phone to take his calls.

If I had seen that the phone call was from this number by my caller ID(DD picked phone up) then I most certainly would not have answered and my WH would have recieved the requesite e-mail about propriety.

Ok.So what say ye? Shall I just ignore the homewreckers and the incident? Speak my mind? Blast away? Am I making a mountain out a mole hill?

O

I am not sure if your phone service has it but mine does and I have used it before. It is call block -- you enter in the number you want blocked from calling your home. Thankfully my wh has respected my wishes and the ow is not aloud to call my house.

Anyway that is my 2 cents the CA way.

tdr

OG, if it were me, I would blow it off and save my energy for bigger things. This is too small of a hill to fight for. This is annoying for sure, but peanuts in the scheme of things. Complaining about something like this might harm you more than it does them and it just isn't worth it.

Believe me, I know how you feel when you see her stinkin' # on there and can FULLY emphathize with you [even tho I am a heartless, coldblooded murdering sociopath <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ]

Your friend, Sadaam <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Octobergirl,

MHO is that you say nothing about what phone was used to call your kids.

However, I would do as tdr says. Block homewreckers phone # and also homewreckers parents phone #.

You won't have to deal with it anymore, and no more pain. Voila!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

You have enough on your plate, you can block this stuff so you don't have to deal with it. Change the things you can, accept the things you cannot change. STBX does not respect you, but you can do something about this one thing.

{{{{{hugs OG}}}}}}

God Bless,

Love in Christ,
Miss M

OG
This is a battle not worth the ammo. This is another round of disrespect from the a#$hole. Unfortunately sometimes the call block from the phone company doesn't work on cell phones. You're better than them. If you really want to get back at him tape a special "greeting" for them on your answering machine.

tdr,

Thanks for the tip.I may just inquire about it since I too thought about this.It would save me from that worry.Hmmm.Maybe I could block WH's too? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Saddham,

Sheesh.Come now.I would have expected a much more devious suggestion to handling this...especially since you're a Texan! Where's that TEXAS can 'o whoop [censored] I was hoping for?!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Miss M,

Right now,I feel like I need to say something about this.Maybe I will feel differently in the AM but I want my WH to know that I will not accept this kind of BS behavior.I mean,what's next? He tells this homewrecker my address? Shows this person personal correspondence,etc? No I cannot control what he does but I can sure let him know what is acceptable or not to me.I have done that all this time and it has gone well.I have had little trouble with him because I am so...vocal..shall we say? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

ecxpa,

Well,it goes without saying that I am better than "THEM".LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> But,I couldn't leave a nasty answering machine message on the phone or even one that dare mentions one thing about the homewrecker.I have one on it now that is of my youngest DD and it's so sweet.Everyone says how cute it is.Plus,more importantly,I don't want my DD's to hear or be a part of any of this.It's between my STBXWH and myself.That's why I am feeling like an e-mail might get the point across.Afterall,that is the only way we "speak" now,if ever.

As always,I am worried about setting a precedent or not maintaining my boundaries and this is one.Where my privacy is protected and that includes any information about me.

Ah well.I am off to bed.Hopefully I will hear more tomorrow.Still debating~

O

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Octobergirl:
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Saddham,

Sheesh.Come now.I would have expected a much more devious suggestion to handling this...especially since you're a Texan! Where's that TEXAS can 'o whoop [censored] I was hoping for?!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

O </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, I have to admit my first suggestion [soberly erased!] was we load up the ole pick up truck, pile in and go over there and open up a few cans of Texas whoop [censored]! We southern gals will show ya how this is done! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

OG, I strongly suspect this was calculated to destroy this last vestige of intimacy you had with your WH.

He has now polluted even this channel of communication between you with his 'beloved' OW.

In truth though, what has hurt you, other than this woman having your phone number?

She already has far more posionous and hurtful intimate knowledge of WH and I am sure the intimacies WH has shared about you with her.

And now, even your phone number isn't secret from her.

Much as I understand how you feel, I agree with mel and say 'keep your powder dry'. You will just sound like a kook if you berate your WH for using his 'beloved's' cellphone.

And try to realise, like I had to, that this woman had already invaded your privacy long before she had your phone number.

You CAN on some networks block calls from a certain number. I would just quietly impose that.

All blessings.

Ok O girl, the OW has your phone #. While that should in all normal circumstances hurt like the dickens, in the land of the A, you can learn to use this to your advantage. If she has your #, do you have her's? Any questionable phone calls can now be attributed to her. Even those hang up calls from the 'wrong #'. Get enough of those and welp, there's a call to the local PD informing them that someone like the person who stole Lisa's coat (the one her H bought the OW and left her with the receipt) is now in your neighborhood making prank calls to your #. Seems like WS' are giving this OW coats and now phone numbers, ask the PD what else is this OW taking from strange men? LOL!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Ok, now back to the land of the sane. Keep this info tucked away. I figure one day the OW is gonna try to get a bit bold and call you. Put one of those trackers on your phone and record stuff. Who knows how handy this might be? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Keep cool. Turn the WS' lemons into your lemonade.....lots of sugar = BS moxi. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hugz,
L.

O....wazzup?

I agree with the "don't sweat the small stuff" approach. In the grand scheme of things this is a non-economical target of your resources.

On the other hand, I know it’s free for me to text message someone from my computer, but it cost them about $0.25 a message to receive it on their cell. I'm sure someone with enough computer savvy could program a PC to continually text message her phone: "Never use this phone to call the residence of Octobergirl" Even a message every 15 sec. is $60.00/hour. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good Morning ALL,

Mel,

I would love to open some can 'o WA on certain people but no,in reality I am not like that although I can dream can't I?!

Bob,

Thanks for responding to me.Yes my WH has destroyed any and all means of communication and any and all desire to be anything but a stranger to him now(I even dread e-mails and what he says).I used to wonder,naively,how two people who fall in love,get married and have a family could turn into "bitter" enemies.Now I know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

What hurts Bob is that this particular cell number was like a burning hot flame in my heart because it was a glaring reminder,each and every phone bill we got or caller ID I saw,that my WH was cheating on me.I had hoped to never see that number again in my lifetime but there it was last night.It brought back so many bad memories for me and I thought it was just hurtful.Maybe to some it was nothing but to me,it was very much so.

This woman has invaded my privacy but I cannot let it continue unabated.

Orchid,

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I loved your post.I have indeed had every bit of information about this homewrecker that I could possibly need for some time now(helps to have a Dad that used to work for the NSA <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> )So I will take action if she starts to look and act like your psycho babble rabbit OW.Honestly though,it's very clear to this homewrecker that I am not nice when it comes to her(previous phone calls) so if she has half a brain,she will stear clear of me.I told my WH this too.

Binder,

Hey! Wassup with you too? Any news on the reconciliation front? What's that WW up to these days? Ahem.

Ya know,this isn't small stuff to me for some reason.I am not really angry per se but definitely upset.After tossing and turning for hours last night and thinking about this,I felt that this just wasn't right.I have worked so hard to put all this cr** behind me and here it is again,in my own home.Not only did I feel bad again,wounded,but seeing that number on my caller ID review brought back so many bad memories.It opened the floodgates of revenge again when I thought I was almost past that for good.Do I want to have this happen again in my beloved home if it doesn't have to? No way.

_

I am taking a stand and I will not allow this homewrecker to come into my home any more.It's hard enough just getting the HW out of my head!If that means blocking her number and any other's asscoiated with it,I will do what I can to implement that.I don't want my DD's to have to ask where this number came from or where WH is.I just do not want them to know anything about this sleazy homewrecker at all.

I have made a decision and I feel it's best for me.No more homewrecker numbers at my home! Not one shred of her existence is allowed near me or my children.A POX on you homewrecker! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Now back to our regularly scheduled programming~

O

OG you said Maybe to some it was nothing but to me,it was very much so

To THEM it won't mean spit in the wind. You can't expect any decency from them or any accommodation of yorufeelings. You will get any request thrown back in your face IMO. Don't give them the satisaction.

And dont for a SECOND consider signing her up for all kinds of expensive ringtones, phone gambling, sex lines and stuff. That just wouldn;t be NICE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Bob,

?? I am a little confused by your last post.Maybe I am not reading it right or something.

I do not expect any decency from the WH and homewrecker.This is about how *I* deal with their cr** at home.I am going to prevent them from being able to call my home from her cell phone.And she hasn't changed it all this time so I doubt she would at this point but any offensive number that I do not want to reach my phone I will eliminate. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> To the best of my ability that is.And I am not going to say much of anything to my WH except that that number and one other(crackpot parents number) have been blocked.All business like.

Your second parapgraph,I have NO idea what you meant.Sorry.It's early...yawn...zzzzz

O

Bob-

LOL!!!!!! October, I believe he was suggesting things you could do, since you have her cell number, i.e. ordering ring tones for her, etc that she would be billed for, but then saying that wouldn't be nice.

Oh Bob............that is something I would think to do, so I find it quite hilarious <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

-Caren

Caren,

LOL.Ok,now I am more awake and see what he meant.Too funny!

I actually thought of doing that ole high school trick of writing her cell number on some bathroom walls and saying,"For a good time call xxx-xxx".etc.Or placing the number in other more appropriate places(bars,porn sites,prisons,etc) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> HA!


Hmmm.Now that I think about it,Bob's onto something.......