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Maybe this isn't the place to talk about movies, but I just watched this one and it definately triggered some memories...

I married my exW when I was very young. We had a summer romance and ended up getting married afterwards. I expected to spend my whole life with her and a movie like this just confirms that some loves last a lifetime... I wish mine had...

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Hi LWH,

I have not seen the movie.Someone else mentioned the movie "Closer" too which I have not seen either yet.

I did see Unfaithful and that was hard to sit through.Oddly enough,I watched it at home,alone,just before my WH had admitted his adultery a couple weeks later! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Maybe a sign of things to come? Yikes.

How are you these days?

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I read the book and had to buy an extra copy to pass around becuase I could not let myself lose the original.

I was not even married to my PBWH(plan b WH) at the time, but I remember bawling as I read it and being too emotional about it.

Great book!

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Hi Octobergirl,
I haven't seen Closer either. I did see Unfaithful. It was pretty depressing. The Notebook isn't about infidelity, its about a love of a lifetime, something I'm sure everyone wishes for but is seldom seen... Hope you are well...

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I'm thinking about getting the Notebook to watch with my wife the next time we are together if she hasn't seen it. Do you think that would be a good idea?

A week ago my wife told me not to call or email but to give her some space and go see a movie or something so I look to see what was showing on the bace here in Germany. It turned out to be closer. Go figure. My wife strays and she tells me to go see the movie and the only one showing is about A's. I had to laugh and I still haven't told her. I also passed on the movie.

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I haven't scene it, but my wife has. I added to her confusion. She wants to feel so in love with someone. She can't see us like that in the future. Part of her mid life crisis or part of her distorted thinking during her EA. Or maybe she just doesn't love me and it truely is over.

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Good point Mark. I think my wife wants our marriage. Hope we can get back to happiness.

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Here's my take on the Notebook - I suggest you read the book. The movie isn't as good. The book is simply one of the most romantic and beautiful things I've ever read - and yes, I'm a GUY that read a ROMANCE novel - it is worth it. Saw the movie, but I don't think it does the book justice. I also highly - HIGHLY recommend the follow-up novel, "The Wedding". Amazing stuff, especially considering this is coming from a guy who's favorite all time book is the "Silmarillion"

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Ok, I suppose it would be ok for a guy to read "The Notebook"...but immediately follow it up with something by Clancy, Cussler, or Lamour to restore the appropriate mental testosterone level... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LowOrbit:
<strong> Ok, I suppose it would be ok for a guy to read "The Notebook"...but immediately follow it up with something by Clancy, Cussler, or Lamour to restore the appropriate mental testosterone level... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> MEN!

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Me and Cindy and the kids sat down and watched the notebook a few weeks ago..I don't think there was a dry eye in the house.

My wife has the Notebook and the Wedding...I have read both..

And Yes i'm a guy to.


What I did not understand is in the movie it looked like they both died but in the wedding, he is alive..HMMMMM

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The Notebook was a good movie, but I noticed that they changed the ending from the book. Really preferred the book's ending. Nicolas Sparks is a terrific writer who really knows how to write about women's emotions when they are in love, hurt by relationships and tragedy. I recommend you all take the time to read another of his novels called the Rescuer. I bet a lot of you might see some similarities of men you know who have to save the world, rescue the woman needing help and then has a hard time staying in a committed intimate relationship once the relationship begins to move to another level. Great book. He also wrote Message in a Bottle a real tear jerker. Appreciate knowing what your opinions about these books are..... - Gypsy

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LowOrbit:
<strong> Ok, I suppose it would be ok for a guy to read "The Notebook"...but immediately follow it up with something by Clancy, Cussler, or Lamour to restore the appropriate mental testosterone level... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">LOL! Actually, I went to Jimmy Buffet's "Salty Piece of Land"...

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Mschluter:
<strong> Me and Cindy and the kids sat down and watched the notebook a few weeks ago..I don't think there was a dry eye in the house.

My wife has the Notebook and the Wedding...I have read both..

And Yes i'm a guy to.


What I did not understand is in the movie it looked like they both died but in the wedding, he is alive..HMMMMM </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Exactly! And it makes so much more sense in the books with him alive in the Wedding - especially the scene with the swans......must be something wrong with us guys, huh? Either that or Sparks is a Very Goood Writer. In any even - avoid the movie if possible...at least until you read both books first...hee hee

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Octobergirl:
<strong> Hi LWH,

I have not seen the movie.Someone else mentioned the movie "Closer" too which I have not seen either yet.

O </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am that someone...lol

I think CLOSER can be therapuetic. I am further down the self-recovery road so it caused me to reflect on some of the dumb things I said and did. This movie must be seen by all MBers who can stomach it! It very realistically chronicles how infidelity hurts all parties, how it seeps into OM/OW lives not just the spouses. I also would like to point out how it showcases the recovery process in a way...anyways I'm jumping the gun, most haven't seen it. I heard it goes to dvd the end of the month.

I'm a cross between Clive and Jude(as far as the roles they play in the movie of course <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ). Come to think of it, I may have even been more of a Clive and OM was definetly more of a Jude, the [censored]!! You'll get my meaning after/if you see it.

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Low:

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I remember some reviewer commenting on the nude scene in Titanic being put there 2 "keep the attention of the male audience until people started dying." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Mel:

Men, indeed! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

-ol' 2long

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by LowOrbit:
<strong> Ok, I suppose it would be ok for a guy to read "The Notebook"...but immediately follow it up with something by Clancy, Cussler, or Lamour to restore the appropriate mental testosterone level... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Low, I have seen the movie, I bought it as part of her valentines day gift last month. Made her dinner and spoiled her all night, then popped it in and cuddled up on the coach. It's much worse than just having to read Clancy or Cussler. Think more along the lines of a day of paintball and beer with some male friends followed by some hunting before you feel right again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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L-W-H,

In my very minimal conversation with my WW six months ago, she stated that her and her father had gone to see " Notebook". She said it was a tearjerker and that they both sobbed thru the movie.

My WW had just flown in her OM and her father who is and was in the latest of his A's when they saw the movie.

Go figure.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Cymanca:
<strong> L-W-H,

In my very minimal conversation with my WW six months ago, she stated that her and her father had gone to see " Notebook". She said it was a tearjerker and that they both sobbed thru the movie.

My WW had just flown in her OM and her father who is and was in the latest of his A's when they saw the movie.

Go figure. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">CY whaddup guy?

Takes one to know one?
I know that was harsh....

People can rationalize anything especially with the co-signing of role models, parents and the like. Pond Scum!

What people fail to realize is, wherever you go...there you are. Folks running from one M to another M only to find out, geeze they have alot of personal work to do before they can be successful at any intimate relationship. If they succeed with their new lovers or 2nd marriages it's mostly due to the acceptance that they had better get their crap together!

It would bother me considerably more seeing a film about how great love is, as opposed to one where love is depicted as painful. I guess I'm not far enough down the recovery road to feel all warm and fuzzy about M.

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FM,

Yes, reality can sometimes appear harsh. But it seems like a feather bed compared to the harsh realities of an A and it's effect.

It appears my WW learned at the feet of the master.


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