My WS has moved out but I found that I have not gotten cell phone or home phone bills in 3 months. I then looked for my extra key to our mail box and found it is missing. Without a doubt, my WS has to be taking my phone bills for review. Why? Do they get jealous? Is it because the BS is the "backup plan".

BTW, I have nothing to hide from her so she can steal my phone bills all she wants! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Unfortunately, once you cross that line & become a dishonest or deceitful person.......you tend to take on the misconception that "everyone" thinks like you do.

Heck, when you come right down to it..... they don't even Trust themselves. (or their partner).
Is it any wonder they wouldn't trust Us???

All they see is dishonesty all around them. Hence they end up seeing Little Else.

As a result, Since They are willing to lie, cheat, steal or even go against their Own Conscience to get what they think they want....... they (sometimes) end up forming a warped opinion that Everyone else would do the same.

Its actually sad that they tend to do this kind of rationalization. ...You know, reworking their own values.......just to be able to live with themselves.

It must really stink to lose your integrity and then have to try and drag everyone else down to that same level with you......just to feel better about your own Poor Choices.
Hope I never get that low.

BHINWI, let her do what she thinks she needs too.
As you have Nothing to Hide (hopefully).....she can attempt to spin things any way she wants.
Sadly, just as we couldn't make them NOT have an A.......we also can't force them to trust us.

Although it might be nice have that kind of power (cause it sure would make things a whole lot easier on everyone). IMO

Besides she'll most likely "make up" enough stuff (revisionist history and all), to more then make up for all the "nothing" your doing currently.
You know the drill: Justify, justify, justify!

"Why does WS spy on BS?"

The main reason, I think, is because they're paranoid. And rightly so, huh?

Another reason is so the fence sitters can stay abreast with what the BS is doing. This is why it's a good strategy for the BS to be a bit aloof and even mysterious. This is easily achieved in a non-manipulative way by simply being independently confident.

WAT

Keith,

Tampering with someone else's mail is a Federal offense.I wonder how your WW would feel if we sent her a little memo about it? Hmmm? LOL

Just kidding.

Does she take only the cell/phone bills and leave everything else? That would be funny! Not too obvious huh? heehee

Oh yea, its also partly about Power and Control.
(Sorry, brain moving slowly today)

Since information is power.....they believe they are still somehow in control if they "know" more than you do.

Its also one of the reasons they tend to like to ask the BS many questions......but tend to resist giving any answers themselves.

But since to almost everyone else their So Called "control" is just an illusion (just look at how Out of Control they really are).....its just another Form of Self Deception .

Unfortunately, that's what drives A's........deception on almost every level!
Especially to the Self. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

October Girl,
Yes, that is all she takes (cell and phone). Pretty obvious huh!

I don't suppose she's paying them...

(that's probably why she keeps taking them... I'm sure)

dewt

No, she is not paying them. I figured it out when my cell phone was disconnected.