In MC last week the C asked us to think about ways we could surprise the other one. I'm really bad about coming up with stuff like this. Any of you guys out there have any suggestions of something that you would like your W to do for you? We are both extremely busy right now adjusting to both being back at work, taking care of the baby, working on projects at the house, and getting ready for the babies baptism and reception next weekend. I'd like to do something nice for my H, just to show him that I care and I am thinking of him. Any ideas?

Take your baby's pic to the mall and have them engrave it on a keychain (Things Remembered), with the baby's b/d on the back, signed All My Love, Kloe.

Give it to him after the baptisim all wrapped up pretty. Everyone will be concentrating on the baby, I'm sure it will touch him that you thought of him in such a way.

- Kimmy

Depending on his emotional needs.... I have lots of ideas.

Need a friend to watch the baby for a few hours.

We men are simple creatures. We like attention from the woman we think is special. Anything that makes him feel special. Make him a special dinner.. especially if you don't cook. There are millions of recipe's online. It's hard to screw up a steak/lobster/garlic chicken with lemon. Wine if you drink it. Sparkling Cider if you don't. Use the china or paper plates on the carpet in front of the fire place. Not the kitchen table.

Romantic music / classic jazz ballads. Diana Krall, Harry Conick etc. Natalie Cole. If you're computer savvy you can complile your own CD on Real Networks in about an hour.

Maybe he's sore from working on your house. I know I am! Baby oil on the shoulders, neck and lower back is almost better than you know what.

Of course maybe this is too much. You just want to show you're thinking of him. Pick up a fun card (not mushy) at the store. You can get them for $.99. Write a short simple note on the inside telling him what you feel about him. A lipstick kiss on the inside really does the trick to finish it off. My wife used to give me those. I still have them in a box in my room to remember how it used to be before the fog.

You can do it. Anything that makes him feel like he's the most special guy on earth.

my H left on business trip yesterday. i snuck in a card with chocolate kisses and combos (O's for huggs) and a note telling him i didn't want him to ever be without huggs and kisses.

he found it this morning and told me 3 times how much he enjoyed find it.

does your H have a briefcase he takes to work? or put something in the car for him to find as he is taking off...

While out at the supermarket Saturday, I bought my H a dozen roses. He buys me flowers at least once a month and I thought it'd be nice for him to get them.

He was shocked. For me?? Then he mentioned how great they smelled for two days after that. I think he really liked me buying him flowers for a change.

Thank you everyone for the suggestions. We are so busy for the next three weeks but after that I am going to ship the baby off to Grandma's so we can have a special night for just the two of us. Maybe go out to a nice dinner (more relaxing then sitting in the house which always seems to be a mess), come home and get in the hot tub together and then see where that leads! In the mean time, I like the idea of getting him a small gift, I'd like to do something with a picture of both me and the baby. That way he can look at his girls when ever he wants!

You said, "We are so busy for the next three weeks but after that..." ??????

Have you got your priorities straight?

Your H is the most important person in this world--he is important than your child, your mother, etc. It is the top responsibility of you and your H to keep your M vibrant.

Your H had an A, your M is hanging by a thread, you're in MC, and the next time you can "work him into your schedule" is 3 weeks? Why not tomorrow?

We are busy getting ready to have 50 people over for a reception after the babies baptism. We are working on projects together every night after work in order to have everything done. I want to have a special night with him, but we won't be able to do that, and enjoy it, knowing we have a ton of things that have to be done. That is why the date night has to be three weeks from now, but we are still doing other things together. We have started to drive into work together, go to church, hold each other at night and stuff like that.

Kloe,

When you are working together at night make sure you give admiration and affection, verbal and physical.

Like slipping your arms around his neck when he is not expecting it and telling him how happy you are. Fluff his hair a bit, laugh things like that. Tell him how much you admire this and that, being totally sincere.

Those were things I never thought to do when working on projects together, and my ex's biggest complaint about me. I felt that way all the time, but never showed it to him.

Love the idea of the picture engraving for after as a babtism gift for him also.