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i'm just trying to figure out how to let my WH back into my heart. I know in my mind he loves me very much and is very much in love with me. i can't even count how many i'm sorrys i have gotton,and how many times he said it was the biggest mistake of his life.He has cried many nites with me. I want to know how do you take that leap forward?Do i stop bringing up the A.like everyone i want all the answers. I don't want to punish him.He is always doing things for me now and with the kids. He actully puts us first. He has never done this. It was always work,overtime,full time school,and homework.He did change for the better.I'm just so afraid to go forward.My H is also looking for a new job. This was a Two month A with a co-worker.They work on different floors now.He never had any type of love for her so when it came to NC that was easy.I honest think he got lost in himself for a while and had to be brought back to earth.How do i get him to do things he likes to do. Hes into music and he won't sing or play his guitar. He says that makes him happy and until he knows he has made me happy he won't play. He is trying everything to make me happy and make up for his actions.I know we can be very happy together and can have a great furture.We both are very much in love. I think sometimes i'm pushing him away. How do i not do that?I want to move forward.My D-day was 12-26-04. It did take another month or so to get all the facts. thats were i think my problem is.He did say all the truth is out. How do I know?
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LL
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> He did say all the truth is out. How do I know?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">How do you not know?
In order to trust....you have to be willing to trust.
At some point....a comfortable point....you have to start taking him as being honest....unless of course you have reason to think he's not being honest.
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I am wiling to trust him i think since it took over a month for everything to come out it makes me question things.He said he protected me and also tryed to protect himself in the begining.Now he knows he should of told me everything in the begining
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LL
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