Well, WH will have been gone 3 weeks tomorrow. He moved 10 hours away, just left with clothes. No decisions with finances or his bills or nothing. The A started last March, and I thought we were in recovery. He came home in October, but for 4 months did nothing but lie and talk to OW. He finally could not lie anymore and left, moved to her state.
I have only heard twice from him. One short message on home machine and this past sunday he called, I told him that i could not talk to him as long as he is continuing to live with her. He seems sad and depressed. Not sure if that is the truth or he just wanted me to think that. He does not have a job yet, and is "justing try to stay alive" in his words.
I am sending his bills to his mom and she has agreed to send them to him. He will not talk to her at all. He just calls every few days to tell her he is ok and that is it. She does not ask a lot of questions, but I fill her in on what the truth is. She said he sounded drained and lost and was really worried.
Should I continue to not talk. I mean this is going on a year now, and he has left the house twice. Once when he said he could not hurt me anymore and he finally moved her away in October, stayed two weeks and came home. False recovery big time. They talked everyday 4-5 times a day. He then left again 3 weeks ago. How can I ever want this person back? I still love him, but not sure if I could put this aside this time. He has hurt me more than anyone I know and to just up and leave, with just your clothes one day, no note or anything.
Should I continue the plan B without calling, even though he is not trying to really call either. He just calls to check in and see if I am ok? What does he think??
