zippidy doo dah,

Most of us here are not in the habit of 2x4'ing anyone who is here seeking help to end the A,from all sides.We will however,give "tough love" or be a bit harsh,so to speak, with someone who fails to follow MB rules and appears to only be here to enable the A through inaction,justification or rationalization.Those people usually do not last very long and eventually leave when they realize they are not going to be supported in their bad behaior.

The difference is that on the sleazy TOW board,they gloat and support one another in keeping the A GOING.Most do not want help ending it.In time you will learn.

O

Caren,

I went over there to look...out of curiosity. I`m almost 5 years into recovery...so I was sure my buttons were not going to get pushed...and they weren`t.

There were NO surprises on that board. None whatsoever. What I figured I would find is EXACTLY what I found. You don`t need to go there and read it to know what`s on it.

The stories posted...the personal profiles...the interactions between the members there...EXACTLY what I KNEW I would find.

Look at it this way...you have to be a certain type of person...have a certain type of mindset to be an OW. That`s what you find on that board. There are no new revelations...no insights you haven`t already ascertained on your own.

It is a waste of time to read that site.

Besides...they don`t care what YOU (the BS) thinks...if they did they wouldn`t have A`s with MM`s. Why should you care what THEY think???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ March 10, 2005, 07:33 AM: Message edited by: Daisy37 ]</small>

After a year and a half into recovery I thought I was strong enough to handle it...pretty funny actually...the fog is thick there.

Reading there one day the folks talked aobut how they were made fun of on another board...went there and was aghast...it's an anti-cheating board, and VERY venomous.

Scarlet-A Anti Cheating Board

These folks read all the cheater boards and then give their "take" on them. Counteracts the gloryb board if you HAVE to go there.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by StillHereMakingIt:
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Scarlet-A Anti Cheating Board
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I just took a look at this and yes it is VERY nasty but also VERY funny...

Stillheremakingit...you have ruined my plans for the day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So happy to help <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Caren,

I'd rather have my gums scraped daily for the rest of my life by an arthritic, myopic, palsied, halitosis infected dentist than to visit over there.

It is where evil goes to breed.

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***STAY AWAY FROM THOSE BOARDS***

Well, I have to admit, never heard of the GloryB boards, but I did hear of TOW! **PUKE**

Still, I went to that board, it is pretty funny...but I cant get around those kinds of boards! I just read the front page and it cracked me up!

I know this is an older thread, so not sure if anyone will read this or not, but here goes...

Momto3Boys:
"Well, I have to admit, never heard of the GloryB boards, but I did hear of TOW! **PUKE**"

I had heard of the Gloryb boards, but not TOW. So I typed in http://www.theotherwoman.com . Anyone been there? I was sure surprised! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Reminded me of a local exterminator company by the name of "Husband Exterminators". Caught my eye and I even remember their name! LOL

Isleepwithacat
Isleepwithacat@yahoo.com

Oh yes. It was part of my healing process to see how the other half lived. Pretty sad. You see the progression of the affair from excitment and love and hope only to watch them fall apart one by one. Most are in pain in the end as most of their MM keep them in limbo forever. Many are dumped as soon as d day hits or they are left for another OW or he may divorce, but in the end they find they are not a match. Some of the OW figure them out and dump them. It really is the same story over and over again. It was helpful after the first year of recovery to watch the natural history of these affairs to help me understand in general what happened to my husband. The affair is so far in the past that I rarely go there, but if I do, many times I actally feel sorry for the girls, because I know what is going to hit them between the eyes. I have observed the 3% first hand. It really is karma-you cannot have what is not yours to take. People need to have no baggage to have a healthy relationship. Those who do find in the end that there is more baggage than what it is worth. The smarter ones walk away. The others continue their pain for years only to end up feeling used and regretting all those years. It is not for those who have just found out. Remember, these women are similar in the sense that they think it is OK to sleep with someone elses husband. THey feel entitled. THerefore, they have a warped sense of reality so it is the blind leading the blind, so you have to take it with a grain of salt. Don't post there, just use the site for healing. Another site that has all aspects is facereality.com and there isone for midlife -can't remember and also survivinginfidelity.com