Seeing that someone new needs this web site every time I log on. Sorry everyone is here. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

RHM-

I agree, it sucks that so many people need this site.

But it's WONDERFUL that it's here....I don't think I would have made it through these past several months without all the fantastic support I received here.

-Caren

Its the greatest exclusive club in the world that nobody wants to be a member of.

I agree RHM. Makes me sad. Have you noticed also how almost everyone here is smart, good, thinking, loving people who don't deserve such cr@p? (FWS and FBS alike).

This site has been a Godsend to me. I could not have survived without it!

FL

I keep thinking of starting a thread that says

"???? sorry your here, hope we can help!"

every time someone new signs up. I'm worried that might be to pushy. I wish I could reach out better to them.

RHM

RHM, I have benefitted more than most from the wisom of the folks on this site ( and MB generally).

I would certainly have been divorced or dead now, rather than in a great recovery, sweating the small stuff.

I feel compelled to help in return, but have learned not to advice outside of my own experience.

Way to many people signing up today. I know that means they are getting closer to healing but it's depressing.

Hi RHM,

Just do the best you can.I am spending a lot more time over on the JFO board welcoming newbies and supporting and buffering them up to eventually transfer over to here(like Miguel,steinla,SNS,and other's etc).Don't worry too much.There are many of us looking out for everyone.

Since I have been here,there have been over 10,000 new members.It's sobering.

O

After H's A, and witnessing all the pain on MB, I began thinking about the 10 commandments. I always hated As and never viewed them as real or romantic. However, I never really thought of an A as a violation of one of the commandments. Since the A I totally get it. An A really is evil. It masqueraides(sp?) itself as something good and beautiful. Yet the devestation and destruction to the BS, WS, families, and society at large is so far-reaching.

I too feel very sad at all the new members. It is just one more story that we know holds so much pain. It's so ludicrous that people in As think they were brought together by God. CV

I found this place after my divorce...long after it (past a year)....When XW and I tried to reconcile and I struggled with absolute knowledge of a past affair she had (she confessed) when we were married I went out looking for "normalcy". One thing I never shared here was my IC, a married woman, "hit on me", asked me out! This was while I was divorced, a single man. I never went back...first because I did begin to feel an emotional attachment to my therapist, second because..I KNEW BETTER!!! My point in this was I needed help. I knew it, so I did some self help..and I found it at the MB site. I shared some stuff with the XW from MB. Then I began to "lurk" here in July 2004...when I had the second of my 3 dd's (same affair just more info each time)..I joined in...

The advice and wisdom of the folks here is great....To everyone who posts..to everyone WHO RESPONDS...thank you from the bottom of my heart. It's OK to love someone who hurt you...I never knew that until I came here....

ooops double post

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I found this site a couple weeks after dday, and didn't sign up untill a month after, because I wanted to see what it was about. I have never been so open about me or my life thaN I have on here. So enlightning, I feel comfortable for the most part, some days I feel like it is a special club for a select few, but then I read some posts and just go wow, I also hate that so many people are affected by infidelity, but, I also love the fact this is here, I have yet to see any real negativity, and I think that is what people come here for, the positve support, no judging, and to just escape the pain if only for a little while.

Over 6000 people signed up from last may to jan.
There must be over 10000 last year. That is way to many hurting people. I sure hope they get as much out of this site as I do. Your right about no judging. I don't care if they are the BS or WS but that they are getting the help they need.

This site has gotten me through some very tough days. There were times at work I would just be a mess and submit a post for help. Immediately it was like the calvary coming to my rescue. We are ALL in this together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I have made so many new friends in this site that I will never meet. But they are all very dear friends. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I, too, don't know what I would've done without this site and the wise people responding to me, AND also those going through exactly the same thing. For the 2 weeks I've been posting here while going through withdrawal, this has been my lifeline. A haven at any time of the day or night when feeling weak. I am so thankful and I KNOW my progress is in large part due to MB!